October is anti-bullying month and the beauty and fashion community is doing something about it. While we think bullying just happens among kids, look at what we do to our celebrities. If you read tabloids and devour articles about your favorite celeb's weight gain, cellulite, and acne you are part of the bullying. While I get you may still buy that magazine, you can help innocent kids get comfort when they are bullied. How? By shopping of course. Here are some fab products so you can do your part.
Secret Clinical Strength Mean Stinks Advanced Solid Antiperspirant/Deoderant in Fearlessly Fresh will donate $1 to Girls on the Run to help end bullying! You can check out all the great things they are doing with Demi Levato. I love this because with Secret you can stay dry but also help a great cause.
Soap & Glory has just launched its Proud Mouth™ campaign. Soap & Glory has partnered with STOMP Out Bullying™. Over the next year, they will be donating $1 of every Baby Doll Sexy Mother Pucker™ sold to help the STOMP Out Bullying™ Help Chat Line fund additional trained counsellors to help kids who are being bullied and who are at-risk for suicide. The goal is to raise $25,000 for the cause.
It's available for $15 at Sephora and will keep your lips looking shiny and beautiful.
A portion of the proceeds from the Rock Candy Cares collection will go toward supporting the vital initiatives of anti-bullying organization Leave Out Violence (LOVE). An especially important cause given the start of the new school year, anti-bullying campaigns are an essential way to teach children to treat one another with respect and understanding. The collection includes: Plum Puzzle Long-Sleeve Tee, Blue Puzzle Long-Sleeve Tee, Gray Heart Long-Sleeve Tee, Black Heart Long-Sleeve Tee, Blue "Do Something" Long-Sleeve Tee, Navy "Be" Sweatshirt, Gray Heart Tank. Available for $35 at Lester's.
Tanda Zap Acne Spot Treatment Device will give a portion of profits to STOMP Out Bullying™. The Tanda Spot treatment uses the power of three: it combines blue light technology used by dermatologists with sonic vibration and gentle warming to help clear your blemishes. It sells for $49 at www.tanda.com.
In addition to all this fun shopping, talk to your kids about bullying and be mindful of your own behaviour. Gossip and talking ill of people is a grown up way of bullying.
From an early age, we teach children to identify and organize objects: A is for apple, B is for ball and so it goes. And we should also teach them to identify their emotions: "You must be happy the sun is shining, we can go to the playground." Or, conversely, "Maybe you are disappointed it's raining and we can't visit the park." In this way, the dialogue begins, as does the ability to take another's perspective. Kids can only talk about their feelings if we give them the vocabulary; so show them how and give them permission to express them.
Parents sometimes don't give their sons the tools they need to properly express their feelings. Child psychologist Dan Kindlon, who co-authored Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, told us parents -- and society -- often protect boys from having to do the emotional work that will help them become whole people. He shared the story of a mother and daughter coming across a little boy crying in the park. When the daughter asks why the boy is crying, the mom helps her speculate. "Maybe he's lost." "Maybe he hurt himself." A mother with a son, however, may tell her son not to worry about the crying child. An encounter with a curt waiter at a restaurant might provide more food for thought: "Why do you suppose he's so angry?", parents could ask. Boys don't need special training, Kindlon says, they need opportunities to show off their natural capacity for caring for pets, siblings, grandparents, elderly neighbors and others in the neighbourhood.
Parents can also show their children how to express their feelings by doing it themselves. Start by sharing the highs and lows in your day. If you are facing a moral dilemma, talk about it with your kids. They don't need to know every detail to try to get the gist. If you make a mistake, apologize. Not only is it the right thing to do, but it shows kids how it's done. As Mary Gordon, the famed founder of Roots of Empathy, an award-winning organization that offers empathy-based programming for children in their classrooms, told us: attentive, loving and empathetic parents are the best role models for children. Gordon should know. Independent studies have shown her program's graduates are more socially sensitive, less aggressive and more likely to challenge injustice than other youngsters.
It's a question that's perfect for every occasion. Ask kids to put themselves in someone else's shoes -- happy or sad. From the playground to the grocery store to the living-room sofa, our day-to-days are filled with moments that could be considered from someone else's perspective. At the park, for example, a power struggle at the swing-set could evolve into a lesson in sharing and perspective taking: "How would you feel if you weren't allowed a turn?" A bedtime story or children's movie that ends happily-ever-after might merit a follow up: "What do you think you would have done in that situation?" It's a lesson some rather accomplished people have learned. In his video introduction at the Democratic Convention in August 2008, U.S. President Barack Obama spoke of the only time he saw his mother angry. It was upon witnessing an act of bullying on someone who appeared to be different. "She'd said to me, 'Imagine standing in that person's shoes. How would that make you feel?' That simple idea, I'm not sure I always understood it as a kid, but it stayed with me."
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