So, you know you're brilliant. Your parents know you're brilliant. Your dog thinks you're amazing, then why are so many things not working out in your life?
A lot of my clients come to me when they have done some of the following:
a)Failed school
b)Become addicted to video games, or pot, or magic cards, or something else.
c)Getting almost zero sleep, watching way too much TV/video/BABV
d)Major anger "issues"
e)All of the above
(Don't you just love multiple choice?)
As one of my clients once said to me, "I really like staying at home, playing video games all day in my bathrobe... but I'm beginning to think that it's not a great long-term plan."
For the sake of these articles, we'll call that client Skeeter. At the writing of this blog, Skeeter is back in school, working towards a degree in science. He caught the attention of an amazing professor who is doing ground-breaking research in his field and has Skeeter working with Dr. V's protégé in the lab.
So how did Skeeter go from being a stay-in-his room slacker to an up-and-coming science dude? And why should you care if you are into something else, or don't even want to go to school, but want to start your own business or killer app?
Truth is, what worked for Skeeter can totally work for you in any field, in any style, in any situation. It's about:
1)Finding your power
2)Learning to believe in yourself
3)Determining how to build habits that guarantee success and...
4)Discovering the secret to success through messing up
Yes, I'm here to tell you... you can't really be great at anything until you can get past... perfectionism.
That's what this system is all about and it works! Each time. Every time.
I've seen hundreds of young people turn their lives around. There are a lot of people out there who deserve to learn how to be their very best and do great things in their lives.
These articles are written for you so you can benefit from this "out of the box" approach that I have refined over time. The process that will get to succeed on your own terms. If you do what we suggest, you will discover things you didn't dare dream. You will find that it's great to get out of bed every morning, feeling good about doing things that people respect you for. And, more importantly, you'll feel good about yourself for doing them.
You will need to do these exercises with a coach/mentor, preferably someone who is not a close relative or who sees you on a day-to-day basis. You need someone you can talk to, someone who will keep your secrets, someone who will respect you and let you grow at your own pace. The best way: get one of your parents to mentor a distant friend and get one of their parents to mentor you. (This will become clearer in chapter two).
There are three sections in these articles and each section is one full stage of development. The first stage is personal development, the second stage is bringing your personal development out into the world with your new strengths, and the third stage is giving back to the world.
Here is a brief outline of the 12 steps in three stages. Enjoy!
Stage One
1) Investigation: Looking at our strengths, challenges, past patterns, coping strategies and choosing role models and events or ideas as inspirations.
2) Opportunity: Searching for a mentor. Choosing three goals, defining the challenges to those goals and indicators of success
3) Mindsets: Abundance, poverty mentality and false epiphanies.
4) Generativity: Creating your daily routine of a personal meaningful practice. Finding the blocks that stop you from succeeding and creating remedies.
5) Out into the world (and back again): Bringing your new skills to the outside world in a safe and limited way.
6) Setting limits: Learning to set limits gracefully on the time-stealers in your life.
7) Direction (Following your bliss): Creating the groundwork for a successful, enjoyable life.
Stage Two
8) Out into the world: Putting into practice stage one in a more extended fashion and transforming all you have learned into new situations.
9) Forming new boxes of safety: Using mindfulness and success consciousness out there and seeing how they work in new situations while learning to feel safe.
10) Creating new generative structures: Schedules, coping and new friends.
11) Making your addictions work for you: Using your urges to indulge your addictions as a reward for doing the work you need to get done.
12) A complete life: Learning a sustainable daily practice of being mindful in
learning, work, relationships and even play.
Stage Three
13) Pay it forward: Once you've reached this point, your life is richer, you are happier and you will truly want to help others grow in their own way. This step will teach you how to do that.
Stay tuned for more.
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