Rape culture has been thrust into the spotlight due to some unfortunate Facebook messages exchanged among University of Ottawa students. The content of their conversation is appalling, but most appalling is how common this type of dialogue is among groups of males. Instead of being able to speak truthfully among one another, men feel pressure to brag about the number of girls they've slept with and how many tequila shots they fed those girls. And maybe it starts off as hot air to impress the lads, but if men talk enough about how cool it is to demean women sexually, some of that talk is bound to turn into action.
Lupita Nyong'o's moving speeches, the Dark is Beautiful campaign in India, and Anita Majumdar's play, Same Same But Different, have me in a different frame of mind as we approach International Women's Day. I'm not just thinking about women's rights and battles. I'm thinking about what it means to be a woman of colour in Canada.
It is 5:30 a.m. I am watching my husband pack his suitcase, scrambling to make a 7 a.m. flight. For the past three years his work has taken him out of town more than half the time by my conservative estimate. But here's my dirty little secret: I love my long distance love affair.
This is the porn talk. By now you know what sex is (and what fun THAT talk was!), and in all likelihood you know more about porn than I imagine. Sex is a universal human experience, and a private one, which means I wanted you to hear about it from the people closest to you. But over the decades, porn has increasingly become part of the sexual experience, and I don't want to ignore it. Even of it's of no interest to you, you should hear me out, if only to indulge dear old mom.
I just came across your website. I was looking for a solution on Google for "how to tell an intern that she stinks." She also wears the same clothes, every day, for the entire week. I am responsible for the retail counter in an aesthetic clinic. I have never been faced with this sticky situation; to tell or not to tell an employee that she smells.
First off, and since International Women's Day is around the corner, can we take a minute to define 'rape culture' for those who seem to think it's an irrational and highly charged blanket statement that seeks to vilify all men for all sins? Even men who consider themselves feminists don't often get it, because they too come from a place of unconscious privilege.
We know change is difficult, that is no secret, the actual secret is the positive benefits of change in many circumstances. The ability to look at change from the positive perspective could be the difference between a positive fiscal quarter and a potato chip and ice cream binge (not that I would ever do that...)
People are literally always trying to date me (that's a lie). So, I thought I would just streamline the whole process and give everyone a few tips and tricks on how to deal, play along, keep up, and woo that special little comedy nerd in your life. Follow these how to's and you wont just be sitting front row at your close friend's shitty improv show, you'll be sitting front row at your girlfriend's shitty improv show.
If we're really to humour the idea that only white people can be racist, what about the rest of the world where white people don't figure? Those African countries wiping out their neighbours are doing it just for the power, silly - perish the very idea that genocide or ethnic cleansing has anything to do with racism...
Facebook censored a picture of a mother moments after giving birth. That's buying into a sanitized version of womanhood. We must share real, unadulterated images of women: strong, beautiful, intelligent, and intuitive. There is no more honest expression of beauty, strength, love, and female sexuality than during childbirth -- it's the epitome of all those things, but it doesn't look much like what Tampax and Maybelline are selling us. Don't be fooled into thinking that women aren't missing out on anything by surrendering our birth experiences to hospital protocol or giving into the pressures of society to look and act a certain way.
Eric Wood -- the chef at the helm of the super hot Beverley Hotel -- is a very likeable guy. There really isn't a more accurate way to describe this dynamic chef who is putting down roots in Toronto after years of globe trotting. Eric curates the March edition of the CHEF'S BOX.
Many times we come into a relationship expecting others to create our happiness, and many times we end up being disappointed. Why? Because it's not someone else's job to make us happy. Happiness begins within. If you want and desire love, you have to begin by first emitting love, and that journey begins within.
After 15 years in the Tri-State Area, I'm moving to LA. Here are the restaurants I'll miss the most once I'm there. The restaurants I love the most in the world.
As we ponder the "religious freedom" of Trinity Western University to enact its "Covenant," the time is ripe to reflect once more on how we arrive at our moral beliefs. The bad news, (but hardly new news), is that TWU wants to also inject into the institutional equation their "moral" policies.
For me, it's not just any old word -- it's my daughter. My beautiful, bright, happy, loving, amazing daughter who is slow or limited in intellectual development and academic progress.
It hurts to do my job, lift my daughter, carry grocery bags, or make it through the day without popping Advils. The message my body is sending is clear: Stop typing, tapping and scrolling, now.
Mean girls (and boys) graduate high school, go on to college, get jobs, get married and have kids of their own. If Regina George never learned to stop her bullying ways, isn't it fair to say that she and her fellow, now adult, Plastics are still engaging in similar hurtful behaviour as adults? So how do we get off this vicious cycle of child bullies growing up into adult tormentors? It's simple. The answer is, and always will be, love and compassion. Yes, we can teach old dogs new tricks. And alpha dog Regina George is no different.
Couples often need to find ways to keep the passion alive and the love boat sailing along. The University of Rochester completed a number of studies that suggested couples should watch relationship/romance-based movies and discuss the issues, successes and concerns raised in a post-film debrief.
Last week I was speaking about rights and freedoms to a high school law class. I asked the students if they could think of any laws that had changed in their life time. They knew that the alcohol limits for driving had changed. But when it came to changes that had brought about legislation against racial, gender, and other discrimination, they had to be reminded or even simply informed.