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The Shiloh Experiment

Posted: 03/27/2012 2:25 pm

If you relish a spirited debate, plop a photo of five year old Shiloh Jolie-Pitt in front of a group of parents and watch the fireworks explode.

Shiloh is the daughter of movie star/humanitarian/"home wrecker" Angelina Jolie and her partner Brad Pitt. And she is almost always dressed as a boy. Whether it's a tuxedo shirt, a Peter Pan outfit or a fedora and tie, the pint-sized celebrity is forever sporting something masculine. In fact, with her cropped hair and penchant for sneakers, it would be easy to assume that she is a he.

Some parents claim that little Shiloh is merely going through a phase. They say that she is just a tomboy and enjoys wearing the same clothes as her older brothers and that it's no big deal. Others wonder if Shiloh might be suffering from gender dysphoria or gender identity disorder.

Like I said though, Shiloh is only five, so we may not get to the bottom of this for several more years.

What is interesting to note, however, is the fact that Shiloh's "cross-dressing" began when she was just a baby. In the first publicly released baby picture of their darling little girl, Brad and Angie chose to dress Shiloh in a grey shirt (featuring a skull and crossbones) and blue pants. She was less than a month old.

Later on, when Shiloh was just a toddler, she was photographed wearing a pair of black and white shoes emblazoned once again with the skull and crossbones.

One may argue that Angie is merely a pirate or poison lover and that this explains the atypical clothing choices. But the public rarely ever saw Shiloh dressed in anything remotely girly or feminine, even as an infant.

Don't get me wrong, when my daughter was a baby she practically lived in sleepers. They were comfortable and easy to take on and off. She also had plenty of stretchy cotton pants when she was old enough to crawl. But most of her pants had cute little ruffles along the bottom. Her shirts were generally adorned with feminine touches -- a bow here, a rosette there. And if I knew we were taking photos, I would take special care to make sure our daughter was wearing something pretty (and wasn't covered in oatmeal).

It is perfectly reasonable that Shiloh, having two older brothers, might want to emulate them and hence gravitate towards a boyish wardrobe. It is also reasonable that rather than fighting with a wilful child over unconventional clothing choices, a parent would prefer to allow the child some autonomy in that department.

What is hugely peculiar though -- and somewhat disturbing -- is the fact that Shiloh was being dressed as a boy long before Shiloh could make such choices for herself. So really, in this instance, it has nothing to do with older brothers or a possible case of gender dysphoria. Shiloh was being guided in this direction from the very beginning -- most likely by her mother, who has a long history of odd and questionable behaviour. (Remember when she French kissed her brother or wore vials of blood?)

In Canada, we seem to have our own "Shiloh experiment" in the case of Storm -- a baby boy or girl being raised by a Toronto couple who had decided to keep their child's gender a secret. The parents also have an older child named Jazz, age six. Jazz is a boy. He has long hair, prefers to wear dresses and his favourite colour is pink. Jazz recently had a fairy-themed birthday party.

I'm all for diversity and acceptance. But when a youngster is indeed different or diverse, we need to make sure that the diversity is genuine and not rooted in a parent's desire to make political statements at the expense of his or her child.

Lydia Lovric is an opinion columnist and talk-radio host, turned stay-at-home mom. Her fiery pieces have appeared in The National Post, The Montreal Gazette and various other papers across Canada. She is a regular guest on BBC Radio, The Michael Coren Show and Charles Adler.

 
 
 
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Marcus047
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06:51 PM on 03/29/2012
"I'm all for diversity and acceptance."

Along those lines:

I'm all for equal rights for gays, but...

Some of my best friends are black

I'm not anti-semitic, my brother's married to a jew

I'm all for multiculturalism, I have a philipino maid
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arkymorgan
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09:14 PM on 03/31/2012
Bingo!
02:38 PM on 03/29/2012
Lyvia Lovric writes : "I'm all for diversity and acceptance."
Hahahaha! Your article just shows the contrary .
... and do they actually pay you to write such a pointless article ?
04:50 PM on 03/28/2012
"What is hugely peculiar though -- and somewhat disturbing -- is the fact that Shiloh was being dressed as a boy long before Shiloh could make such choices for herself."

Baby girls are dressed in dresses and pink sleepers long before they can make such choices for themselves. Is that disturbing? How is it that you're more concerned with Shiloh Jolie Pitt than the thousands upon thousands of children who have normative gender forced upon them from a young age and face discrimination and violence when they don't perform the gender assigned to them long before they had the power to speak for themselves? Do you really think that if at some point Shiloh asked to wear pink her parents would respond to her the way so many parents of boys do when they ask to wear pink or dresses?
If your son decided to wear pink dresses would you be so welcoming of this decision? The only thing disturbing here is your total naivete about children and gender.
10:59 AM on 03/28/2012
Really everybody? You mean to tell me that none of you have looked at a recent picture of Shiloh, or even her baby pictures when they were first released, and thought, 'Hmm, weird.'
Would you have the same comments towards this subject matter and towards this article if it were a baby boy dressed in a pink laced dress as an infant? So you would simply say, 'Oh not to worry, girly dresses on infant boys are no big deal. He must just have a couple older sisters, so mom just chose one of their outfits for his first photos.' COME ON!!!
I fully agree that a child is a child, a person is a person, and everyone is beautiful no matter what! However, it's ok people, you can admit that Angelina's choices for her daughter early on is a direct result of Shiloh's choices now, and that hell ya, it's a bit strange. She's cute, but it's a bit strange.
04:53 PM on 03/28/2012
No, what's strange is that so many people feel the need to scrutinize this child's parents for how they dress her.
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Marcus047
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11:08 PM on 03/27/2012
Do they actually pay you for this vapid, pointless, trolling?
02:25 PM on 03/29/2012
Hahaha ! I thought exactly the same !
06:39 PM on 03/27/2012
The baby-boy clothes are easy. She had two older brothers. They were picking out her clothes. And it's none of your business how other people dress their kids.
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arkymorgan
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05:45 PM on 03/27/2012
I got news for you, honey:

All children are the subjects of their parents' socio-political experiment at child-rearing.

Since you mandated your infant daughter towards frilly pants and girly blouses from infancy on, how do you know that her own preferences have not been warped to reflect YOUR socio-political bias?
05:22 PM on 03/27/2012
Showing a photo of this child to MY group of parent friends would decidedly NOT start a "spirited debate". Because who the heck cares what somebody else's kid wears? She looks happy and healthy, end of story. We all have more important things to talk about.
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04:06 PM on 03/27/2012
I agree, parents need to stop dressing their girls in pink the moment they pop out because clearly its a political statement. Why would you dress your daughter in pink? Did you know she was drawn to pink as an infant or did you decide that girls wear pink and YOUR preference is put onto your child who than takes in YOUR ideas about gender and colours. So there, everyone tries to put the clothing they like on their kids, and it is up to the kids to eventually develop a personal taste and grow out of it.

And anyhow, gendered colours are weird. Can women not wear grey or else it makes them masculine? Can men not wear pink because it makes them feminine? Pink is particularly interesting because it used to be a masculine colour until it was associated with homosexuality by the Nazis, but once homosexuality became normal and acceptable you started seeing more straight men wear pink because they no longer feared an attack on their masculinity.

To be truly honest to your point of view and not hypocritical, every baby should have large amount of clothing that span from masculine to feminine. That is not a straw man because you are saying that parents should not make decisions about their children's gender identities through their clothing choices. That sword cuts both ways. Its also really really stupid and unfeasible.
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Cynthia Dudley
03:14 PM on 03/27/2012
Since when is "grey" a gendered colour and why should pirate themes be considered gendered in this day and age? By 3 my son had pretty clear ideas about his clothes and hair and he still does to this day. Shiloh will figure it out in her own time and until then maybe people need to find something closer to home to worry about.
02:54 PM on 03/27/2012
Or maybe we can stop gendering intimate objects like CLOTHES. Somehow, it's being implied here that by choosing to dress a 5 year old in "male" clothing, it is a political statement.... Maybe it's just a parent dressing their kind. end point. full stop.