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Why the Older You Are, the Happier You Get

Posted: 01/23/2013 8:47 am

There is one inalienable truth about happiness. Grumpy old men, and women, are not grumpy whatsoever -- contrary to popular myth. In fact, this truth remains the most contrarian of all research on happiness, and, to the best of my knowledge, is still the most evidence-based.

In a brilliant study published in 2010 in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, Arthur Stone and colleagues interviewed over 340,000 people in the United States by telephone to ask about how happy they were. The survey asked each person to rank overall life satisfaction on a 10-point scale and to answer six yes-or-no questions about enjoyment, happiness, stress, worry, anger, and sadness.

What the researchers found surprised them. Levels of stress and anger decline progressively and significantly after people pass through their early 20s. This is not a story about the feeling of emancipation that comes with graduating from college or paying for your own cellphone plan. We humans shed stress and anger bit by bit as we age.

Over 50 and Smiling?

When it comes to the feeling of worry, it follows a slightly different trajectory. Worry rises after age 18, but then falls again after 50. Perhaps by that time all your anxious worries have already materialized -- the career that never reached the heights you once imagined; the marriage that fizzled; the house that foreclosed; the friends who betrayed you; the children who turned out less than perfect. After age 50, there is nothing further to worry about and so one becomes increasingly happy. Or at least that's one explanation.

If true, this is of great significance for managers in recessionary times. Many over 50 have been thrust into long-term unemployment. Yet thanks to this new study, we now have powerful data to fight age discrimination in the workplace. Older workers are happy workers, and happy workers are more sensitive to client needs. Leaders, take note.

The study followed a careful methodology. All the various feelings were measured using tools called "Hedonic WB" and "Global WB." WB stands for well-being. This reflects one's own subjective view of the experience of well-being. External realities don't matter. You could be living in squalor (as long as you have a phone and can be reached in order to be surveyed) and you still apparently feel more and more content as you age. Amazing when you consider that by age 85 (the happiness apex apparently) one's physical health is generally not top notch.

Why would people be happier when they get older? Is it because they have accumulated material goods over their life span? Do riches make people happier? Apparently not. Being a man or a woman didn't make a difference, being single or partnered didn't make a difference, being employed or not didn't matter and neither did having children at home. In other words, outside circumstances didn't affect the outcome as far as the researchers could tell. Contentment is a state of mind.

Maybe world views change with maturity. You get wise and realize, by the time you reach your 80s, that possessions and earthly glory don't count. It's the emotional-spiritual dimension that really matters.

But there may be another explanation still. Perhaps the progressive elimination of crucial nerve cells in the brain have obliterated bad memories so there's nothing remembered worth worrying about? Nerve cells die at random, I was taught. But maybe that's not true. Maybe the nerve networks that record good times stay intact longer than those others that hold awkward, humiliating, depressing moments that you have ruminated over so often that the circuits are worn from overuse, burnt out, and the bad memories have melted away forever.

Whatever the reason behind the study's results, the news is good for older people (and something to look forward to even if you're young). By the time you hit 85, you'll be more satisfied with yourself than you ever were. Bob Dylan was right. You'll be so much younger then, you're older than that now.

This essay is adapted and updated from the author's 2010 blog at Longwoods.com

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AcunningDisguise
magnus gigas caput
07:20 PM on 01/23/2013
"Grumpy old men, and women, are not grumpy whatsoever "
Your taking the cantankerous out of curmudgeon how are we going to get any peace now?
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SolarPowerGuy
Ph.D., Immunology; Solar power @ home; Green Party
03:17 PM on 01/23/2013
This disagrees with my personal experience. Very few of the people I see around me have gotten happier as they have aged. I see more and more people treating each other less kindly, and breaking long relationships. One common element I see is a sense of desperation surrounding health, retirement funds, etc. This is not time to be poor, and it isn't even all that secure to be middle class.
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sgillhoolley
Occupy the discussion.
09:24 AM on 01/24/2013
Not just your own personal experience. The largest demographic of suicides are seniors. I think many people are getting to the point where they will run out of money, and then what? Death is an option that many think reasonable.
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SolarPowerGuy
Ph.D., Immunology; Solar power @ home; Green Party
11:45 AM on 01/24/2013
I've been waiting several hours for a follow-up comment of mine to appear here. I will repeat myself.

This article was linked from the United States front page of HuffPo, but only on re-reading it did I notice that it was posted from the CANADA Living section. Maybe life for an older person in Canada is better than it is in the US, it wouldn't surprise me.
03:11 PM on 01/23/2013
The universe did just find before humans existed and will not care when the human race is gone, imo. Within that context, we can get so worked up over meaningless drivel, usually the result of someone trying to make a dollar or realize some imaginary achievement. If you can see through it and let it go it becomes trivial and you get to see the real joy of our all too brief existence. Guess that's where I am at, an old happy guy, my 2 centavos.
01:29 PM on 01/23/2013
"I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now". Bob Dylan, from My Back Pages on the Another Side of Bob Dylan album.
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Red Herring
Retired Miner, living in third world
11:25 AM on 01/23/2013
I am 72 so still have not reached the magic plateau of 85 quoted in the study. Since 50 I can say with some degree of confidence that everything has been a repeat in one way or an other. I now know that the latest bogyman, Hitler, will fade into nothing when the next bogyman,Hitler comes along. That the stuff I worried most about last year never came to pass. That I will die sometime within the next 28 years. I no longer worry about Hell and or Heaven. In short what seems to have happened is that I stopped worrying about death and began enjoying life. The best over all thing that has happened to me is that I came to the realization that religion was the biggest obstacle to the enjoyment of life. Once a person is free of the myths religion propagates, you experience a sence of relief and freedom that can´t be matched in any other single thing that you do for your self.
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wikwox
So there I was, playing the piano....
10:16 AM on 01/23/2013
Greetings from the over 50 and long term unemployed! Except for being a musician that is. But it's a big old Yep! I'm happier and have much less stress than I once did. Also noted money and possessions ain't everything either. But I know plenty of unhappy old people, the Republican party relies on them.
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Tena
09:19 AM on 01/23/2013
Once you've lived 50 years, if you haven't understood the transitory nature of everything, you haven't been paying attention. You've likely gone through many experiences that you believed at the time were ultimate experiences of sorrow or trouble - and then everything changed. By 50 you should know in every fiber of your being that nothing bad lasts forever, just like nothing good does. Once you realize that, what is the point of doing anything other than rolling with the punches and waiting for the inevitable change? And by 50 you should have shed most if not all of your self-consciousness. That also makes it easier to face perhaps embarrassing situations that would have destroyed you at 20. By 50 you've made a fool of yourself enough times to know it's not fatal and maybe you even learn to laugh at yourself.
evecaren
Every cloud has a silver lining
03:22 PM on 01/23/2013
I enjoyed reading your comments, Tena. Speaking as a woman over fifty, I agree with a lot of
what you say. I like your comment " by 50 you've made a fool of yourself enough times to know
it's not fatal." I like the fact that I can laugh at myself, chalk it up to experience and move on.
faved and fanned for your post.
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bikelady1
Believe 1/2 of what u see, nothing of what u hear
09:15 AM on 01/23/2013
Happiness is a state of mind. Sometimes happier than other times. But I must say that as we get older, even if we took care of ourselsves when we were younger, health problems arise. I am happy that I did not have these health issues when I was young. That is what I am happy about.
09:14 AM on 01/23/2013
Really? I've turned WAY grumpier since I've turned 50.
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Act out
Make love not war.
01:14 PM on 01/23/2013
You made me think about the number he picked because as a woman I went through menopause then and I was grumpy as heck. This passed and now I'm happier than ever.
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InnaGaddaDaVida
follow the beat of your own drum
09:08 AM on 01/23/2013
When's someone gonna recommend we put down everyone over 50; happiness is not allowed and must be stamped out!
09:01 AM on 01/23/2013
at 44 am just starting to get a grip on what it means to be happy; letting go, acceptance, maintaining positive outlook, exercise.
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independentgal
10:29 AM on 01/23/2013
Good for you! It really does get better and better. Take it from me as one who will be 70 in a few months.
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June Conway Beeby
08:51 AM on 01/23/2013
Now that I have arrived at this Nirvana I think it is a welcome physical change in the brain. It needs no conscous effort but it simply arrives--a gift of peace for humanity towards the end of life. I hope it comes
to everyone.

It's awesome.