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If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.
You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your partner's phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.
As affairs occur all the time, the question then is should you confess to an affair? There are a lot of variables in the answer to this question that don't make the answer so cut and dry. In the end, only your conscience can guide you in what's best.
So, it's less than three weeks before Christmas. Friday night. Friends are winding down from their work week, decorating the tree with the kids, and maybe getting ready for a Christmas party. I just learned of my husband's affair. I picked up a card I found in his gym bag. I read the cover and thought, "Wow! This must be my Christmas card." But I didn't put it down, and the surprise was on me. It was from Karen. Karen? Who's Karen?
For those who find themselves swept up in the high seas of an affair, it's easy to think that you've fallen in love; however, before you make that life-changing and hormone-charged assumption, ask yourself a few of the following questions about your forbidden paramour.