Affairs

Would You Own Up To Having An Affair?

Sue Nador | Posted 06.06.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

By withholding the truth about her affair from her husband, Tabitha holds all the cards when it comes to their marriage. She is able to preserve what matters most to her-her family life, financial security and the love of her husband-but on her own terms. Her husband is continuing to commit to the relationship under false pretences.

Cheating Made Me a Different Person From the Very First Kiss

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.01.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

It can be really easy to live with a secret. Three and a half years ago I was living in Toronto's East end, long time boyfriend and cat at home. It wasn't long before I met someone who did more than wolf-whistle out a car window. One night a few of us went out dancing. Mid-twist he kissed me and all my senses were on fire. But innocent walks turned into conversations tinged with sexual innuendo. Alleyway makeout sessions, then sex -- anywhere we could. I found myself turning into this seemingly new person. People who have never cheated ask how you can do it mentally, emotionally. It's different for everyone. But what they don't understand is that it gets to the point where recklessness overpowers all logic and all sense of "right."

How to Recover From 'Relationship Trauma'

Susan Valentine | Posted 02.16.2014 | Canada Living
Susan Valentine

You need to see that your partner has suffered too, not from your anger, but from the weight of his or her own actions. If you believe your partner deeply regrets his actions, knows he was wrong, and even feels he violated his own personal standards, you will feel more trusting and open to forgiveness.

When We Sign Up for Monogamy, Are We Trapping Ourselves?

Sue Nador | Posted 02.02.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

Should we still be signing up for monogamy 'til death do us part? When we sign up to be faithful, what assumptions are we making? There are so many assumptions we make when we sign up to be faithful 'til death do us part. But we shouldn't make promises we can't reasonably expect to keep.

Affairs Never End Well - Mine Was No Different

The Purple Fig | Posted 11.25.2013 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

When I got an unnecessary text from him, I smiled. And while that was interesting and made me feel powerful, it also made me sad. I knew how it would end and it had not even begun. I made references to his wife, to him not being available in a way that made me feel respectable. But the sexual tension rose, and the encounters became more and more heated. He continuously told me he wanted me.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.09.2013 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

I first heard the statement, "Once a cheater always a cheater" when I was in high school. Maybe some women are born with an innate desire to believe in the ability to change. I know I'm a little more evidence-based myself and if history is any indication, I'd say Don Draper will spend the rest of his fictional life appearing in the beds of women all over 1960s Manhattan.

Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Time heals all wounds, right? Wrong. If a couple who has suffered through infidelity does not properly recover and heal from it, time only makes the scar more visible. The wound may even re-open now and then. But if a couple uses time smartly, it can soothe the pain and the scar can begin to fade.

How I Discovered My Husband's Affair

Yummy Mummy Club | Posted 04.21.2013 | Canada Living
Yummy Mummy Club

So, it's less than three weeks before Christmas. Friday night. Friends are winding down from their work week, decorating the tree with the kids, and maybe getting ready for a Christmas party. I just learned of my husband's affair. I picked up a card I found in his gym bag. I read the cover and thought, "Wow! This must be my Christmas card." But I didn't put it down, and the surprise was on me. It was from Karen. Karen? Who's Karen?

The Real Reason Why People Cheat

Marcia Sirota | Posted 11.29.2011 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

It's too easy to say that people cheat because they're unhappy in their marriage. I've observed that there are a number of reasons why people cheat, and these have everything to do with the character of the person cheating.