Playing with power conjures up the image of leather-clad bodies in handcuffs and collars -- visuals seen mostly on Law and Order SVU. But that is only one side of power play. So why is power so popular in getting our erotic juices flowing?

Society still isn't comfortable with a woman flaunting her sexuality. Especially when she gets turned on by certain fantasies that are seen as taboo'ish. I really don't believe today's woman is sexually emancipated and the backlash telling her she shouldn't like erotica books is simple proof.

This widespread resentment toward Christian Grey -- kink version of the Alpha male -- has sparked a furor among men. But men are missing the point. It isn't Mr. Grey's bank account or bondage gear that makes him Mr. Right. The real reason women lust after him is because he makes them feel lusted after.

As a fellow creator in the world of sex and erotica, I'm glad when other women in the industry garner great success for their work. But imagine how dismayed I was then after finding out that Fifty Shades of Grey, this wildly popular series not only represented a relationship devoid of the components integral to healthy BDSM, but also some of the most male-driven fantasies and sexual stereotypes!

A D/s relationship, in its truest form, is all about her wants, her fantasies. Some of her desires may be conscious, but others may be locked in her subconscious. The Dom's job is to build a bond so strong with her that she feels safe enough to unleash her creativity and explore her innermost self.

Fetishes are definitely something people don't understand and therefore label as deviant. Because these people don't toe the what-is-socially-acceptable-for-sexual-behaviour line (i.e. heterosexual monogamous sex) they are automatically labelled as freaks. Some people like blow-up dolls. So what?