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We Need To Stop Judging Submissive Men

As a romance author, I'm constantly bumping up against a rather awkward subject. An elephant in the room, if you will. What am I talking about? 50 Shades of Grey. Yes, it has been a number of years since its release. Yes, it's absolutely relevant to the conversation on sexuality. And I'll tell you why.
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Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.
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Fifty Shades of Cliché: How To Explore The <i>Real</i> Kink World

The worry of those who promote and teach about kink is that those reading Fifty Shades Of Grey will dive into recreating the relationships within it. Relationships that if they were taking place in real life wouldn't be viewed as kinky, fun and romantic, but as abusive, emotionally if not physically. Fortunately there are those more than willing to correct the inaccuracies in the book for those looking to discover the real world of BDSM.

Can Erotica Help Women's Sexuality?

Society still isn't comfortable with a woman flaunting her sexuality. Especially when she gets turned on by certain fantasies that are seen as taboo'ish. I really don't believe today's woman is sexually emancipated and the backlash telling her she shouldn't like erotica books is simple proof.

Oh Fun City! Vancouver's Vibrant Alt-Sex Scene

As a sex positive advocate, fetish event promoter, and editor of Erotic Vancouver Magazine, here are my can't-miss events of the year ahead. While vanilla Vancouver may still be "No Fun City," with its regulations, liquor laws and misguided Granville Entertainment District, for the sexually open or open minded we find ourselves living in "Oh Fun City!"
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What Men Can Learn From 50 Shades of Grey

This widespread resentment toward Christian Grey -- kink version of the Alpha male -- has sparked a furor among men. But men are missing the point. It isn't Mr. Grey's bank account or bondage gear that makes him Mr. Right. The real reason women lust after him is because he makes them feel lusted after.
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Fifty Shades of Male Fantasy? No Thanks

As a fellow creator in the world of sex and erotica, I'm glad when other women in the industry garner great success for their work. But imagine how dismayed I was then after finding out that Fifty Shades of Grey, this wildly popular series not only represented a relationship devoid of the components integral to healthy BDSM, but also some of the most male-driven fantasies and sexual stereotypes!
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CHANGE MY MIND: Should Modern Women Feel Empowered by S&M Porn?

With the recent popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James -- a book which focuses on the relationship between a recent college graduate, and a young businessman with a sexual penchant for BDSM -- people are asking themselves whether this is a topic that empowers the modern woman, or is a fantasy which promotes their degradation and exploitation. What do you think? See if either of our Huffpost combatants can change your mind!
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He Likes Blow-up Dolls... So What?

Fetishes are definitely something people don't understand and therefore label as deviant. Because these people don't toe the what-is-socially-acceptable-for-sexual-behaviour line (i.e. heterosexual monogamous sex) they are automatically labelled as freaks. Some people like blow-up dolls. So what?