Debra Macleod

Marriages Crash When Sex Falls Off The Radar

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.17.2017 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

When it comes to marriage, emotional and sexual intimacy are two sides of the same coin. In successful marriages, we see a pretty decent balance. We see a couple who is going through life as best friends, and who just happen to think the other is pretty damn hot. Sex is a "use it or lose it" kind of thing.

When His Midlife Crisis Wreaks Havoc On Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.11.2017 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If your husband is having a destructive midlife crisis, I encourage you to see the situation more objectively. You need to see it for the self-focused power play it can be. Because when one spouse's "crisis" creates a crisis in the life of the other spouse, or in the marriage, there comes a point when you need to wise up.

10 Things Your Cheating Spouse Doesn't Want You To Know

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.03.2017 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Finding out that your husband or wife has been unfaithful isn't just a time of profound heartbreak and shock, it's also a time of intense confusion. There are so many unanswered questions and so many overwhelming emotions. Unfortunately, not all unfaithful partners will react with honesty, humility or empathy when their betrayal is discovered.

Here's What Your Partner Really Wants For Xmas

Debra Macleod | Posted 12.15.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Your partner wants you to stop checking your Facebook feed at the movie theatre. To stop getting that glazed-over look in your eye, the one you get when you're in the middle of an actual face-to-face conversation, but you feel that itch to check your phone. Your partner really, really wants you to stop ignoring them or half-listening as you check your emails for the gazillionth time that day. Your partner wants you to stop texting your "friend" while you're lying in the privacy of your bed.

'Tis the Season For Holidays And Horrible Marriages

Debra Macleod | Posted 12.08.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

You don't need to fix your problems because Christmas is coming. You need to fix them because they're chipping away at your happiness and well-being, and they're probably chipping away at the happiness and well-being of your kids, too.

Counselling Can Ruin What's Left Of Your Struggling Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Many people feel that marriage counselling is ineffective, yet it remains the prevailing approach to relationship troubles, even in the majority of situations where psychological problems are not present. It's time to think outside the box.

You Can Save Your Marriage In 60 Seconds

Debra Macleod | Posted 10.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Got a minute? Good. Let's see how you can start to improve the dynamics in your marriage right now. It's like this: There are sixty seconds in your day that are absolutely pivotal in terms of how you and your spouse will relate to each other for the entire day and night. Ready?

Should You Contact The Person Your Spouse Is Cheating With?

Debra Macleod | Posted 12.20.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.

Being An "Alpha Mom" Is Killing Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Debra Macleod

When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."

When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.20.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.

8 Ways to Take Your Marriage "Off Hold"

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

It's a mistake to think that you can put your relationship "on hold" until the kids are gone. Instead, practice these eight ways to take your marriage "off hold" right now, and keep it alive and well throughout the various stages of your life together.

8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to Life

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.24.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you're in a zombie marriage, you know the signs: apathy, routine, familiarity, empty interactions, irritability, indifference and sexlessness. You don't actively dislike each other -- you've just kind of stopped showing up. If this sounds familiar to you, don't run away (or aim for the head) just yet. Instead, try these eight tips to see whether they can bring your zombie relationship back to life.

Why Buy the Cow...Oh Wait, Women Aren't Cows, Debra Macleod

Matthew Bellissimo | Posted 04.01.2014 | Canada Living
Matthew Bellissimo

In her article titled "Don't Live With Your Boyfriend If You Want To Get Married," Debra Macleod provides her reasons for why she thinks couples should not make the cohabitation commitment before the man decides to "put a ring on it." Macleod refers to herself as a "relationship expert." She may want to reconsider that title.