I just got back from Ottawa where I was on the set of a movie being made about the first year of my life post-divorce. That's right -- a movie. About me. Little' ol me -- just a former stay-at-home mom of three kids, whose entire world, six years ago, was so pulverized, she didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone forge a new career or identity for herself.
If you're getting married, you need to think about your will. In Ontario and some other provinces, getting married revokes your existing will. While there are limited exceptions to this, the document sitting on your (or your lawyer's) shelf is likely a number of years old and does not take this into account.
The long-term financial health of those separating can be severely impacted as they seek to divide assets and agree upon income support payments. What many may not realize, however, is that this financial damage can lead to debt and financial challenges for not only the individuals separating, but their extended families as well.
While we consider driving to and from work routine, you might want to put your foot on the brakes for a minute and consider the results of one study: Long distance commuting increases the chances of divorce or separation. The study found that the first five years of long distance commuting seemed to be the most destructive time for relationships.
Yep, you can marry the wrong person. There are countless ways and reasons to restore your marriage, but sometimes the problem goes beyond trust, or communication, or intimacy. Usually in these cases, the question being asked is not, "How do I fix my relationship?" Instead it's, "Should I stay or should I leave?"
In a moment, my view of the world and its expectations of me changed. As a teen someone said to me, "You cry at the drop of a needle." I promised myself right then and there that I would stop being emotional; I would be strong. If I wore my best poker face the world couldn't shake me. I rejected who I truly was, and my freedom to express that. But then life got complicated.
Sticky situation: In our daily lives, from work to the community and even within our very own family, we regularly receive news that may make us uncomfortable and will at times, leave us speechless and paralyzed. To enlighten you, and hopefully prepare you for what to say and do, here are some suggestions.
The moment the judge said in the court that my divorce is granted and asked if there was anything else I wanted to add to the list of wishes granted on my behalf, it was a no-brainer -- I wanted my name back. Little did I realize then the implications it would have for days, months, and years to come.
So, it's less than three weeks before Christmas. Friday night. Friends are winding down from their work week, decorating the tree with the kids, and maybe getting ready for a Christmas party. I just learned of my husband's affair. I picked up a card I found in his gym bag. I read the cover and thought, "Wow! This must be my Christmas card." But I didn't put it down, and the surprise was on me. It was from Karen. Karen? Who's Karen?
Bumps in what should be a smooth road are unavoidable. And as most of us know, sometimes the journey -- even an unexpected and unpleasant one -- can have more to offer in the long-term than the destination. Admittedly, that's going to be a tough sell to the 4,000 passengers on the Triumph. But what about when things go wrong in a marriage?
I believe "sexual incompatibility" is often the catch-all excuse many couples use because they don't know how to work through their outside-the-bedroom couple issues. I would bet my mortgage those couples contemplating divorce are sexually compatible, they're just not willing to invest time and energy into making their sexual relationship work.
If you think your partner is to blame for your relationship troubles, scroll through these 10 signs and ask yourself: Am I turning into the spouse from hell? While this list isn't exhaustive, it does highlight some of the more problematic behaviours that many of us show in marriage. Life's too short for that.
In many cases, couples' counselling can be the final nail in the marital coffin. Why? Because counselling is a practice that focuses on the self. This "all about me," approach is the precise opposite of what struggling spouses need to save a marriage in crisis. It's naïve to think that an individual's personal experience with marriage doesn't factor into the relationship advice they dispense.