Growing Up

It's Time To Bring Back Shop and Home Economics Classes

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 08.09.2016 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

As our lives became more hectic and lifestyles more busy, the traditional model of family also shifted. No longer were women staying at home, living out their lives as "domestic goddesses," and increasing numbers of men were shown to be not particularly handy when it came to making and fixing things, and that was okay. But now, our kids don't have those skills at all. What happened?

Teens Need Hugs (Even If They're Totally Over Them)

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 06.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Kathy Buckworth

"A hug is like a boomerang. You get it back right away." This is true 90 per cent of the time. But 10 per cent of the time, it's not true -- especially when you're trying to hug a reluctant teen as you drop them off at their friend's house or at school, and even sometimes when you're alone in the house with them.

Stop Forcing Summer Activities On Your Children

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 06.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

"Children need to be occupied, they need structure, they need predictability," the experts tell us. Heaven help you if you don't make sure to keep those sticky little hands busy between late June and Labour Day every year. After all, children need structure right? No they don't.

One Day I Will Miss Every Frustrating Parenting Moment

Vanessa Heron | Posted 06.22.2016 | Canada Parents
Vanessa Heron

I know there are going to be many, many more hard moments when I ask myself how much longer a certain behaviour of my children's is going to last. But with each of those hard moments that I want to end, there are a dozen precious moments that I want to hold onto for a lifetime.

What Do You Do When Your Baby's No Longer A Baby?

Vedavati M. | Posted 05.11.2016 | Canada Parents
Vedavati M.

I've experienced different kinds of neediness in my life: My professional contacts have reminded me since you were 6 months old how badly I'm wanted back at work. Your father has patiently waited for me to become a friend and a wife to him again. Your grandparents have always missed spending time with their only child. But nothing like this.

'Just Wait' Is Parenting Advice I'll Happily Ignore

Jean Lomas-Hamilton | Posted 05.10.2016 | Canada Parents
Jean Lomas-Hamilton

It's an interesting phenomenon among parents, this "just wait." What will happen if all I ever do is look out for the perils that lie ahead? I'll wait and wait and wait and then these precious years will be over. And in waiting in fear of what's next, I'll have missed the process of actually getting there.

When Your Child Doesn't Have Friends, Here's What To Do

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 03.09.2016 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

So what's a parent to do when they realize that their child, for whatever reason, is having difficulty making or maintaining friendships? No parent wants to feel that their child is missing out or... being shunned for one reason or another... Yet, this is the reality for too many children who face rejection on a daily basis.

No Longer The Centre Of Their Universe

Julie Nowell | Posted 02.04.2016 | Canada Parents
Julie Nowell

The kids are growing up, and as they do so, drifting away. Their independence is greater than their need. I think back to those days when I was smothered in children. When I knew every moment of their day. When our lives were so entwined it was difficult to see where one started and the other left off. When they were a part of me, and I was a part of them.

It Might Be Too Late For Parents To Stand Up To Their Kids

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 01.11.2016 | Canada Parents
Kathy Buckworth

It all starts from the day they're born. I am proposing that, to paraphrase any person from England, you start the way you mean to go on. Let them take over your night's sleep for longer than a year? Hmmmm. Jeopardize every social plan you try to commit to? Not good.

Maybe I Will Miss The Diaper Years After All

Jacqueline Melissen | Posted 01.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Jacqueline Melissen

Changing a toddler's dirty diapers is truly one of the worst things you have to do as a parent, but somehow those five minutes were some of the best of my night.

As The Parent Of Identical Twins, This One Question Stopped Me In My Tracks

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 11.30.2015 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

We all have a journey towards our sense of self; for identical twins, the road to self-awareness both literally and figuratively, is particularly challenging. In the case of my kids and so many other identical twins.

Your Child's Fake Illness May Be More Serious Than You Think

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 11.12.2015 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Indeed, most instances of "faking it" are caused by the usual reasons, most of which are innocuous. It's the more insidious ones that we, as parents, need to be aware of so that we can address the causes at the basis of why our children are avoiding school.

Dealing With A Sassy Tween

Her Magazine | Posted 11.06.2015 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

Remember that it is completely natural for tweens to argue with us. They are assessing their sense of independence. They are learning the skills to become independent, well-adjusted adults. Even if right now we feel like throttling them.

Healing The Emotional Scars Of Hurtful Parents

Marcia Sirota | Posted 10.29.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

Instead of trying to get your parents to love and validate you today, you'd be better off facing the truth about them, giving up your futile attempts at winning their love, and focusing your attention instead on developing the self-love and self-confidence that your childhood deprived you of.

Why Do Halloween Costumes For Teenage Girls Have To Be Slutty?

Scarlett Ballantyne | Posted 10.28.2015 | Canada Parents
Scarlett Ballantyne

If I am being completely honest, there is a teeny-tiny bit of me that thinks it should be okay. Seeing how my girl has grown up and become a young adult is rather poignant. To the outside world, I realize that it is different. Provocative Halloween costumes look sexy on her, as the costumes are intended.

It's Not Always Easy to Watch Your Kids Grow Up

Jacqueline Melissen | Posted 10.08.2015 | Canada Parents
Jacqueline Melissen

I'm so happy to watch you grow, and so proud of the big kid you want to be, even though growing often comes with pain. I love who you are becoming and who you already are. Grade two is pretty new to us, but it suits you just fine. Keep getting bigger, baby ...and also, stay small.

Overparenting Is Doing More Harm Than Good

Her Magazine | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

Overparenting, over-managing, over-involved. This is how we would describe our generation of parents. It comes from a good place of course -- we love them and want to protect them. We want them to be the best in whatever they undertake. But what are we really protecting them from?

Dear 20-Year-Old Me

Shanita Hubbard | Posted 09.01.2015 | Canada Living
Shanita Hubbard

It was an amazing time. You couldn't tell this Dr. Carter G. Woodson reading, Zeta loving girl anything! My college years were everything. I don't have any regrets, but if I had the chance to whisper some wise words to the afro-puff rocking young Shanita I would do it.

30 Things I've Learned About Style in Time to Turn 30

Anne T. Donahue | Posted 08.24.2016 | Canada Style
Anne T. Donahue

On Saturday, August 29, I turn 30. Three-oh. Twenty plus ten years. The age in which you are completely responsible for your own actions and can't, in any way, shape, or form, blame it on your "turbulent twenties" or "being young." That's why here, in the spirit of turning 30 and basking in life lessons, I present: 30 things I learned about style over the course of the last 30 years.

Maxing Out Our Happiness

Shannon Mulligan | Posted 07.05.2016 | Canada Living
Shannon Mulligan

nd I'd give myself a solid 8/10 at life. It's just that remaining 2/10 that's sometimes missing. This other 20 per cent is, in my opinion, the zest of life. It's those moments you get caught up in and find yourself wondering if this is really your life -- is it actually possible to be this excruciatingly happy?

What Led Me to Seeking Solace in Psychics

Katie Boland | Posted 06.30.2016 | Canada Living
Katie Boland

"What's Lily Dale?" my husband asked. "Lily Dale is a spiritualist community in upstate New York. Seriously, everyone who lives there is a psychic," I said. "People have been going forever to talk to the dead. I really want to go."

An Open Letter to My Tween Daughter

Erica Gomez | Posted 05.21.2016 | Canada Parents
Erica Gomez

Dear Daughter, I'm writing this not to let you know how much I love you, and I do. So much. Not to tell you how proud you've made me and how talented you are. You have. You are. I'm writing you to let you know that I understand. That I care.

Sorry Ladies, Clothing-Optional Spas Make Me Awkward

Hannah Jack | Posted 05.11.2015 | Canada Living
Hannah Jack

I'm a feminist, but that doesn't mean want to see your bush. Let me explain. I spent my morning at a water spa in the city. An important part of this scenario is that bathing suits are optional. Great! Cool! I'm a modern lady! I've seen Dove commercials! Nakedness is no problem for me. EXCEPT THAT IT FOR SURE WAS!!!!!

Let's End the Myth of the 'Evil Twin'

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 04.06.2015 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

There are no polarities when it comes to twins. No "good" one vs. "bad one;" no angelic child versus evil spawn, no duelling forces, vying for the top spot in their respective categories. There are just kids, warts, scabbed knees and all. Though the mythology and expectation of opposite-minded twin siblings is appealing to some, it is, fortunately, untrue.

Don't Make Santa Your Parenting "Fall Guy"

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 02.19.2015 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

Sure, Santa may determine that a child's behaviour is not up to snuff and is therefore a reason to deny said child of gifts on Christmas Day. But why does Santa have to be the judge, jury and (figurative) executioner on December 25th? Whatever happened to parental responsibility and the ability to look one's child in the eye in an attempt to deliver the verdict?