Helicopter Parents

How Not To Be THAT Sports Parent

The Huffington Post Canada | Trish Bentley | Posted 07.06.2016 | Canada Parents

"Put away your cowbells. They don't belong in the arena."

Stop Forcing Summer Activities On Your Children

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 06.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

"Children need to be occupied, they need structure, they need predictability," the experts tell us. Heaven help you if you don't make sure to keep those sticky little hands busy between late June and Labour Day every year. After all, children need structure right? No they don't.

I'm The Kind Of Mom Who Lets Her Kids Take Risks

Sarah Scott | Posted 06.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Sarah Scott

They should be able to confidently navigate independent situations. Being able to ask other adults for help, ordering fries from a fast food counter, helping a younger child at the playground, figuring out their own boundaries -- this all takes practice.

Helicopter Parenting Leads To Serious Workplace Setbacks

Jessica Glazer | Posted 05.27.2016 | Canada Parents
Jessica Glazer

"Careful" is a helicopter parent's mantra. These kids have grown up in the shadows of fear, always too afraid to take risks, too cautious to make sound decisions alone and too callous to stand up for themselves as they have never had to. In their childhood their parents made all their decisions and as young adults they have no clue how to fend for themselves.

The World Needs Parents To Let Their Kids Fail

Craig and Marc Kielburger | Posted 05.19.2016 | Canada Parents
Craig and Marc Kielburger

Let kids fail young -- while they are still in their beta phase, adaptable and resilient. Let them struggle with a math problem. Let them audition for the lead role when you know they're likely to be cast as an understudy. Let them make mistakes that will build self-care and even empathy.

Parents, It's Time To Stop Undermining Our Kids' Teachers

Blair King | Posted 04.25.2016 | Canada Parents
Blair King

We are doing a huge disservice to our kids. We are raising a generation of children who are going to be incapable of succeeding in the modern era. They are being taught to be egocentric and to give up, often before even trying.

Parents Who Are Jealous Of Their Kids

Lenora Thompson | Posted 03.07.2016 | Canada Parents
Lenora Thompson

What normal parent would be insanely jealous of their own child?! I never expected it and I certainly didn't want it. But there it was: jealousy. As plain as the nose on my face. It all started just after puberty. I was fourteen when Mom first accused me of trying to "be cute" for my own father. Need I add that it wasn't true? But your Mommy is always right, isn't she?

Non-Profit Foundation Hopes To Make Playgrounds Less Safe

The Huffington Post Alberta | Sarah Rieger | Posted 01.15.2016 | Canada Alberta

Yes, you read that right.

7 Steps To Stop Helicopter Parenting Now

Catherine Hernandez | Posted 01.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Catherine Hernandez

I have had a few daycare kids whose parents did not teach them how to climb stairs. Ever. The thinking was that stairs were dangerous. Of course they are dangerous. That's why, if my daycare kids have the use of their legs, they need to learn to climb them. As soon as a kid learns to walk, we head straight to the stairs.

It Might Be Too Late For Parents To Stand Up To Their Kids

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 01.11.2016 | Canada Parents
Kathy Buckworth

It all starts from the day they're born. I am proposing that, to paraphrase any person from England, you start the way you mean to go on. Let them take over your night's sleep for longer than a year? Hmmmm. Jeopardize every social plan you try to commit to? Not good.

Are We Talking Enough to Kids About Stress?

masalamommas | Posted 10.10.2015 | Canada Parents
masalamommas

Who hasn't gone through playground drama, right? What I didn't realize is how this situation was making daughter feel low about herself and her ability to handle her emotions on the playground. I think like most parents I wasn't sure how much to ask her about stress. Culturally, many of us grew up with more conversations about academics and marks than conversations about feelings and stress.

Overparenting Is Doing More Harm Than Good

Her Magazine | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

Overparenting, over-managing, over-involved. This is how we would describe our generation of parents. It comes from a good place of course -- we love them and want to protect them. We want them to be the best in whatever they undertake. But what are we really protecting them from?

You Should Ignore Bad Advice, Even From People With Good Intentions

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 07.15.2016 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

Every human being on earth crafts a unique set of biases based on his or her own experience -- you, me, and everybody else. We use this experience to dish out advice. But what works for one person (say, someone who loves you and wants only the best for you) might not work for you.

Hey Parents, Let's Call A Truce

Jacqueline Melissen | Posted 06.10.2016 | Canada Parents
Jacqueline Melissen

Whether you're more of a bench-warmer, or a helicopter, or a free-ranger, or an anything else, how about we let the labels go and appreciate our complementary styles? Instead of getting annoyed when I see you actively play at the park, with your kids or mine, I'll think how great it is that you're enjoying your day with your lucky child.

Parents, Learn How to Foster Independence in Your Kids

Kids Help Phone | Posted 05.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Kids Help Phone

Developing independence is part of growing up, and it's something that young people should be encouraged to develop at every age. Safety should always be a priority for parents, but kids' maturity should also be taken into consideration as well. When you show young people that you trust them, it helps kids to trust themselves.

23 Things I've Learned From 6 Years as a Mom Blogger

Emma Waverman | Posted 05.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Emma Waverman

After six years of writing about hot topics in parenting, I have read many studies, talked to countless experts and quoted hundreds of news stories. During that time, my family has grown a collective six feet, and aged from preschoolers and kids to teens and tweens. And I want to be honest when I tell you that despite the thousands of hours I have spent reading and researching parenting, I still have no idea what the hell I am doing.

Why I'm Glad To Be a Helicopter Parent

Lori Gard | Posted 11.25.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

As a mother, I have struggled with being labelled at times. Even so recently as last week, I denounced myself in conversation with my husband as being a helicopter parent, feeling defensive about my level of involvement in our children's lives. As a mom, I find myself consistently teaching, mentoring, coaching and loving our four.

The Balance Between Relaxed '70s Parenting and Modern Meddling

The Purple Fig | Posted 10.05.2014 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

Here we are now in 2014 with the pendulum having swung so far to one side that our kids are actually suffering from our over-involved parenting style. By looking back through history, we can see what works and what doesn't, but usually it's a trip down our own memory lane that can guide us best.

Helicopter Parenting? Try a Skydiving Plane Instead

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 03.17.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

While watching a news segment on Helicopter Parents, my daughter turned to me and said "You're not a Helicopter Parent", which was not news to me. She continued "You're more like a Skydive Plane Parent. You push us out and don't look back." She paused and then added "You sometimes give us a parachute."

Kids Don't Need to Be the Centre of Your Life, But Don't Be a Jerk

Darlena Cunha | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

When young mother Stephanie Metz (she's 29) says "My kids are not the centre of my world, and that's quite simply because they are not the centre of any world, anywhere," my old, wizened ass (I'm 31, and most decidedly not a young mother) would like to point out that this sentence actually doesn't make any sense.

When Every Child Wins, Everyone Loses

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

I'm against kids "winning" at all costs. This refers to the growing trend of letting all kids win and telling them that "everyone's a winner." Everyone is not a winner. That's why we have the designations of "winners" and "losers." Someone has to lose. It's not pretty, but that's life.

The Top Five Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make

Samantha Kemp-Jackson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Samantha Kemp-Jackson

There are parenting methods that are known to be detrimental if not downright damaging to a child. Try doing these and you'll more or less guarantee that your child will grow up to be a person who, let's say, won't be the most well-liked or respected in their social circle.

How My Kids Learned to Feed Themselves By Themselves

The Purple Fig | Posted 12.01.2013 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

When my arms were elbow-deep in the toilet this morning, I realized something. The kids called: "Momma, can you please get me a snack?" "Mommy, find my soother!" I kept saying, "You can do it! I'll help you in a second!" After a few minutes of this, they stopped asking. It got very, very quiet. I peeked out of the bathroom.

Anxiety in Children: Are We To Blame?

The Purple Fig | Posted 04.28.2013 | Canada Living
The Purple Fig

You cannot flip open a newspaper, a magazine or scan Facebook without noticing the rise in anxiety and depression amongst young teens and adults. Many articles call it an epidemic, documented by a severe spike in suicides, prescriptions and counselling appointments on university campuses. I'm seeing that the new literature is calling for a change in how we parent and coach our kids in the early years. We cannot start the inoculation in their teens; the time is now.

Were Parents Better Then or Now?

Sandra Charron | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Sandra Charron

I grew up in the era of Tough Love. There was no pretending in my home. My mother called it as she saw it, and what she saw wasn't always pretty. I've spent years meticulously choosing politically correct ways of disciplining my children. Now I know exactly where I went wrong.