Infidelity

After 2 Years, These Exes Are Finally Getting Closure

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 09.03.2015 | Canada Living

It's real and raw, and you're going to need tissues.

How Would You React to Finding Your Spouse's Name on Ashley Madison?

Marcia Sirota | Posted 08.21.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

If your spouse's name came up on this list of dumped emails, how would you feel? And what would you do? Would you forgive them and try to work on the relationship? Would you ever be able to trust your spouse again?

Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse On

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.19.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The recent Ashley Madison hack hasn't just exposed user data - it's also brought to light our various attitudes toward marriage and monogamy in today's high-tech, high-strung society. There are many reasons people stray and technology enables infidelity in a way that is faster and easier -- although certainly not more secretive -- than ever before. Yet in the end, it is always a question of choice. "Will I break the promise I made to my spouse?" In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack, we're seeing a lot of "You got what you deserved!" opinions.

There's a Difference Between Fantasy and Cheating on Ashley Madison

Sue Nador | Posted 08.19.2015 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I'm a big believer in some personal autonomy. I don't feel I owe it to my husband to share every one of my deepest and darkest secrets. And I don't push him to tell me everything on his mind either. God no, I don't want to know everything on his mind. I'm a gal who enjoys a bit of mystery and his over-sharing would be a buzz kill. But there is a difference between "thought" and "action". It's fine to fantasize -- no harm is done.

The Most Common Phrases a Cheating Spouse Uses

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Many people who suspect their partner is having an inappropriate opposite sex friendship -- and who fear it is leading to infidelity -- often end up questioning themselves or worrying that they are being jealous, paranoid or controlling. After all, no one wants to be "that" spouse.

This Is What you Really Get When You Marry Someone

Lauren Messervey | Posted 07.02.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

The media likes us to think that the perfect body, both male and female, is what we want to hold forever, but I'd like to disagree. I'd like to watch time take its toll and hear the words "I love you" with the same sincerity that was spoken when I was once young and beautiful. There is something in this that means so much more than the superficial joy of having someone frozen in perfection.

Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Of course, relationship problems do have to be discussed. But trust me -- if you improve your interactions before you talk about them, you'll spend a lot less time digging up and re-burying cats that should have been laid to rest a long time ago.

Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.26.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Affairs are messy things and it is unlikely that the illusion of this relationship will lead to any kind of happy reality for you. Even if you do defy the odds and this person leaves his or her spouse for you, all you've accomplished is "winning" someone else's cheating husband or cheating wife.

Why Opposite-Sex Friendships Will Destroy Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Before you know it, the spouse and his or her extra-marital friend are comforting each other, turning to each other for advice, sharing details of their intimate life and relationships, and texting each other with increasing frequency and intimacy. As the excitement of their forbidden friendship grows, the dynamics in the marriage deteriorate. After all, three's a crowd.

The Most Awkward (And Most Important) Talk To Have With Your Partner

The Huffington Post Canada | Posted 07.23.2014 | Canada Living

For people entering a marriage all dewy-eyed and confident, relationship counsellors have some news for you: one of you is likely to cheat on the othe...

How to Keep Your Relationship Infidelity-Free

Trina Read | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

The reality is there are too many unsatisfying and empty relationships. Consequently in today's instant gratification society, at least half of men and women are looking for a quick fix of what they need outside of their relationship. If cheating is easy and there is a high payoff, why wouldn't they?

Would You Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

Erica Diamond | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Diamond

It's why I thank my mother and father for raising me with good self esteem and it's why we should raise our daughters with good self esteem. So she can stand on her own two feet without a man -- if ever need-be. So if ever she finds herself in a marriage where her hubby is parking his penis in another woman's garage, she has options.

A Married Man's Take On Why Men Cheat

AskMen.com | Posted 10.30.2013 | Canada Living
AskMen.com

Cheating is about one thing, and that's the transgressor's inability or unwillingness to reconcile the feeling of love with the decision to love. Feeling love is easy, because it's a largely chemical affair. But, once we cross that bridge into a serious, committed monogamous relationship, those feelings aren't enough. The decision to love is another matter entirely, and one that many cannot come to terms with.

Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.10.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Divorce rates are nasty and too many women find themselves in unhappy, unhealthy marriages. I've compiled a list of eight subjects that, if I found myself Dean of Spouse School, I would recommend as prerequisites to marriage.

Vegas "Sex" Casino: Would You Go With Your Spouse?

Debra Macleod | Posted 06.11.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

M.S. Shadlock's controversial sexual thriller, The Inferno, is about a "sex hotel and casino" in Las Vegas where you gamble with sex, not money. It explores -- among other things -- what happens when couples push the limits of their sexuality in an effort to spice-up their marriages. Would couples really go to a place like this?

Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Time heals all wounds, right? Wrong. If a couple who has suffered through infidelity does not properly recover and heal from it, time only makes the scar more visible. The wound may even re-open now and then. But if a couple uses time smartly, it can soothe the pain and the scar can begin to fade.

Part 1: How Technology Has Enabled Cheating

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.23.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Dating and social networking sites provide low-risk, high-excitement ways to connect with strangers and/or reconnect with past friends or lovers. The payoff -- a rush of adrenaline and arousal -- is instantaneous and people often mistakenly believe that they have made an authentic, meaningful connection with someone they have either never met or barely know.

Is Your Marriage Counsellor a Home-Wrecker?

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.13.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

In many cases, couples' counselling can be the final nail in the marital coffin. Why? Because counselling is a practice that focuses on the self. This "all about me," approach is the precise opposite of what struggling spouses need to save a marriage in crisis. It's naïve to think that an individual's personal experience with marriage doesn't factor into the relationship advice they dispense.

Eight Ways to Make Your Husband Want You Again

Debra Macleod | Posted 02.03.2013 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.

Is Technology Making It Harder For People To Cheat?

CBC | Posted 01.14.2013 | Canada Living

As the email scandal surrounding ex-CIA boss David Petraeus proves, those who decide to cheat on their spouses, as careful as they may think they are,...

What Men Can Learn From 50 Shades of Grey

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.12.2012 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

This widespread resentment toward Christian Grey -- kink version of the Alpha male -- has sparked a furor among men. But men are missing the point. It isn't Mr. Grey's bank account or bondage gear that makes him Mr. Right. The real reason women lust after him is because he makes them feel lusted after.

10 Red Flags Your Partner Might Be Cheating

2 For Couples | Neil Morton | Posted 06.27.2012 | Canada Living

Signs of relationship infidelity come in many forms -- some obvious, others more subtle. "Even before physical cheating comes emotional cheating -...

I Made Out With a Married Man, and Told His Wife

Delaine Moore | Posted 08.21.2012 | Canada Living
Delaine Moore

Last year I spent out eight hours with a handsome "urban cowboy" at a bar. A day and a make-out session later, I found out he was married. I told his wife what had happened. I don't know if I made the right decision, so after a year of not speaking to her, I got in contact with her, and here's what she had to say about knowing that her husband cheated on her.

Should You Stay Married After An Affair?

Posted 04.11.2012 | Canada Living

Devastation, anger, betrayal -- without a doubt, these are the emotions certain to overwhelm any marriage in the wake of infidelity. But what isn't qu...

Relationship Advice: When to Break Up

Marcia Sirota | Posted 12.11.2011 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

If one or more deal breakers are present in your relationship, you'll have to see whether it's possible for you partner to stop what they're doing immediately. There's no point in waiting for them to change. You've already been tolerating the intolerable.