Lies Bound His Family Together – And Tore Ours Apart

Linda Simpson | Posted 09.29.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

My former spouse had entered out marriage dishonestly. Other than words, there was no "forsaking all others" honoured in our wedding vows. The truth was finally revealed very much later on our 25th wedding anniversary. Were we destined to divorce or were there other factors?

Should You Contact The Person Your Spouse Is Cheating With?

Debra Macleod | Posted 09.14.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.

It's A Sad Time For Love When Cheating Has No Clear Definition

Amrita Sandhu | Posted 08.15.2016 | Canada Living
Amrita Sandhu

The realization that technology has truly changed the dynamic of relationships in any tech-friendly area of the world these days. Gone are the days of monogamy and trust. It's just all too easy to cyber cheat, or to have computer, phone and tablet screens hide the dirty work of actual cheat cheating. Where do you draw the line?

When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.20.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.

Why "We're Just Friends" Is Often A Lie

Debra Macleod | Posted 07.07.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The truth is, many opposite-sex friendships are sustained because of a simmering attraction between two people. If circumstances were different, they could easily be sexual partners. And they know it. This underlying current of attraction makes talking, texting and spending time together as "just friends" all the more exciting. It has an erotic edge to it.

Telltale Signs Your Man Is Dating An Insecure Woman

Collette Gee | Posted 06.29.2016 | Canada Living
Collette Gee

Ever get this nagging feeling that your man is pulling away from you, but you don't know why? Your mind creates vivid images about him spending time with another woman because somewhere deep down inside you don't feel good enough for him. If this is something you're experiencing, then your man is dating an insecure woman.

Is Beyonce's Lemonade Strength In The Face Of Infidelity Or Weakness?

Erin Silver | Posted 05.31.2016 | Canada Living
Erin Silver

She's got everything: beauty, talent, money. She's in the best possible position to get divorced. Why would she allow someone to hurt her the way she has? Why would she just sing about her husband's betrayal when she could kick him to the curb? What message is she sending the rest of us if she decides to stay with someone who has deceived her?

Going Through A Divorce? You Must Read This Book

Linda Simpson | Posted 05.10.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think -- this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it's a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour. How is that possible? Turns out similarities are not even unusual but predictable, right down to the language a departing spouse might use.

How I Self-Destructed At The End Of A Decade-Long Relationship

Lily Burroughs | Posted 05.04.2016 | Canada Living
Lily Burroughs

No matter how independent, self-reliant, and strong we are, sometimes there's a part of us that wants to self-destruct. Usually, after a traumatic experience, when we feel especially vulnerable, scared, and alone. And after the devastating breakup with my fiancé and boyfriend/best friend of nine years, I self-destructed in a big way.

This Major Predictor Of Infidelity Is Also A Love Enhancer

Greg Kushnick, Psy.D. | Posted 04.20.2016 | Canada Living
Greg Kushnick, Psy.D.

In my experience as a psychologist working with couples, unless a relationship has truly run its course, most people who cheat end up regretting their choice and hurting more people than they could ever anticipate. Wouldn't it be helpful to conduct a simple self-assessment to gauge the strength of your connection?

This Mattress Can Apparently Tell If Your Partner Is Cheating

The Huffington Post Canada | Emma Prestwich | Posted 04.20.2016 | Canada Living

"Having peace of mind is not easy in a relationship.. until now."

8 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should Make

Debra Macleod | Posted 01.04.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Ah, we all love a fresh start, don't we? But between charging up that new Fitbit and vowing to stay on budget, be sure to make a few promises to your sweetheart. Here are eight relationship resolutions every couple should make.

These Are The Signs Your Spouse Is Having A Texting Affair

Debra Macleod | Posted 11.24.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your partner's phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.

After 2 Years, These Exes Are Finally Getting Closure

The Huffington Post Canada | Joy D'Souza | Posted 09.03.2015 | Canada Living

It's real and raw, and you're going to need tissues.

How Would You React to Finding Your Spouse's Name on Ashley Madison?

Marcia Sirota | Posted 08.21.2016 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

If your spouse's name came up on this list of dumped emails, how would you feel? And what would you do? Would you forgive them and try to work on the relationship? Would you ever be able to trust your spouse again?

Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse On

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.19.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

The recent Ashley Madison hack hasn't just exposed user data - it's also brought to light our various attitudes toward marriage and monogamy in today's high-tech, high-strung society. There are many reasons people stray and technology enables infidelity in a way that is faster and easier -- although certainly not more secretive -- than ever before. Yet in the end, it is always a question of choice. "Will I break the promise I made to my spouse?" In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack, we're seeing a lot of "You got what you deserved!" opinions.

There's a Difference Between Fantasy and Cheating on Ashley Madison

Sue Nador | Posted 08.19.2016 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I'm a big believer in some personal autonomy. I don't feel I owe it to my husband to share every one of my deepest and darkest secrets. And I don't push him to tell me everything on his mind either. God no, I don't want to know everything on his mind. I'm a gal who enjoys a bit of mystery and his over-sharing would be a buzz kill. But there is a difference between "thought" and "action". It's fine to fantasize -- no harm is done.

The Most Common Phrases a Cheating Spouse Uses

Debra Macleod | Posted 08.10.2016 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Many people who suspect their partner is having an inappropriate opposite sex friendship -- and who fear it is leading to infidelity -- often end up questioning themselves or worrying that they are being jealous, paranoid or controlling. After all, no one wants to be "that" spouse.

This Is What you Really Get When You Marry Someone

Lauren Messervey | Posted 07.02.2016 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

The media likes us to think that the perfect body, both male and female, is what we want to hold forever, but I'd like to disagree. I'd like to watch time take its toll and hear the words "I love you" with the same sincerity that was spoken when I was once young and beautiful. There is something in this that means so much more than the superficial joy of having someone frozen in perfection.

Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

Debra Macleod | Posted 05.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Of course, relationship problems do have to be discussed. But trust me -- if you improve your interactions before you talk about them, you'll spend a lot less time digging up and re-burying cats that should have been laid to rest a long time ago.

Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.26.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Affairs are messy things and it is unlikely that the illusion of this relationship will lead to any kind of happy reality for you. Even if you do defy the odds and this person leaves his or her spouse for you, all you've accomplished is "winning" someone else's cheating husband or cheating wife.

Why Opposite-Sex Friendships Will Destroy Your Marriage

Debra Macleod | Posted 04.11.2015 | Canada Living
Debra Macleod

Before you know it, the spouse and his or her extra-marital friend are comforting each other, turning to each other for advice, sharing details of their intimate life and relationships, and texting each other with increasing frequency and intimacy. As the excitement of their forbidden friendship grows, the dynamics in the marriage deteriorate. After all, three's a crowd.

The Most Awkward (And Most Important) Talk To Have With Your Partner

The Huffington Post Canada | Posted 07.23.2014 | Canada Living

For people entering a marriage all dewy-eyed and confident, relationship counsellors have some news for you: one of you is likely to cheat on the othe...

How to Keep Your Relationship Infidelity-Free

Trina Read | Posted 06.24.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

The reality is there are too many unsatisfying and empty relationships. Consequently in today's instant gratification society, at least half of men and women are looking for a quick fix of what they need outside of their relationship. If cheating is easy and there is a high payoff, why wouldn't they?

Would You Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

Erica Diamond | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erica Diamond

It's why I thank my mother and father for raising me with good self esteem and it's why we should raise our daughters with good self esteem. So she can stand on her own two feet without a man -- if ever need-be. So if ever she finds herself in a marriage where her hubby is parking his penis in another woman's garage, she has options.