INTERRACIAL DATING

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A White Canadian in Harlem

It's impossible for me to be invisible in Harlem. I'm not just me; I stand for something. "They even come up here now," a guy said to my face with disdain. I'm a they; some kind of collective face. I feel strangely protected in my conspicuousness, but that might be an illusion. But I'm not the only white woman in Harlem, of course.
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Does Liking White Guys Mean I'm Full of Self-Hate?

I jokingly consider myself to be the first, last, and only incidence resulting from a Jamaican-Slovenian union. There is nothing I find particularly unappealing about non-white guys. But there is something I've always found especially alluring about white guys. When I explained this to someone he suggested that maybe I harboured some feelings of self-hatred that I needed to address...
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Dating Outside of Your Race

Do not use stereotypes to appear knowledgeable about your beloved's race. Obviously, a difference in race does exist and there is nothing wrong with acknowledging these differences, but you don't need to live in the land of labels.