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Wishing your lover would take a bit more control in the bedroom? Frustrated by his hesitation to be the boss while you happily submit? Don't know how to bring this up without embarrassment and possible disappointment? You are not alone!
So here we are, not just as kinksters but as a nation, debating prejudice against BDSM, worrying about how our personal kinks might affect our jobs, and invoking Pierre Trudeau's famous statement that "There's no place for the state in the bedrooms of the nation."
The worry of those who promote and teach about kink is that those reading Fifty Shades Of Grey will dive into recreating the relationships within it. Relationships that if they were taking place in real life wouldn't be viewed as kinky, fun and romantic, but as abusive, emotionally if not physically. Fortunately there are those more than willing to correct the inaccuracies in the book for those looking to discover the real world of BDSM.
As a sex positive advocate, fetish event promoter, and editor of Erotic Vancouver Magazine, here are my can't-miss events of the year ahead. While vanilla Vancouver may still be "No Fun City," with its regulations, liquor laws and misguided Granville Entertainment District, for the sexually open or open minded we find ourselves living in "Oh Fun City!"
A few weeks ago, my newsfeed was filled with stories from this year's Sundance Film Festival: "Record Number of Female Directors!" However, what little information I could find about the films centering around women with sexual storylines led to utter disappointment -- did they all just happen to be really dark, or is the female perspective on sex an utter failure?
When people around me learn of my profession in pornography, they immediately start asking morbid questions. I'm used to this: Society has always tried to control our sexuality. But I'm not so much concerned with society. I'm more concerned with what I'll say when my daughters ask: "Mommy, what is your job?"