#Loss

Bereavement Days Should Extend To Loss Of A Family Pet

Get Leashed Magazine | Posted 07.26.2016 | Canada Living
Get Leashed Magazine

For anyone who's lost a pet, the heartache is significant and can last a long time. Feelings of grief can cause mental distraction, loss of appetite, bouts of extreme sadness and even lasting depression. Why, then, are we expected to get back to work after the loss of a pet without being allowed to take time off?

Hope And Loss As World's Youngest Country Turns 5

Oxfam Canada | Posted 07.08.2016 | Canada Impact
Oxfam Canada

Last week, Canadians came together to celebrate their country's 149th birthday. This week, South Sudan marks five years as an independent nation. Yet for many there is little to celebrate. For half of its brief life, the world's youngest nation has been ripped apart by war, leaving tens of thousands dead.

Dear Bereaved Mama On Mother's Day

Jennifer Pitt | Posted 05.06.2016 | Canada Parents
Jennifer Pitt

Parenting a child after the loss of a child is a daily struggle. You do your best to cherish every second, because who knows better than you how fleeting it can be? While your head is cherishing away, your heart is heavy with the feeling of abandoning your lost child's memory by being happy.

Accepting My Miscarriage Helped Me Heal

Melanie Braga | Posted 04.18.2016 | Canada Parents
Melanie Braga

The emotional distress started to make me feel sick all the time and it came to the point that I just couldn't continue like this anymore. I decided that my first step to healing was to talk to people who have experienced the same type of loss, and by doing this it helped me realize that everything I was feeling was normal.

Happiness Is Being A Single Grandma

Linda Simpson | Posted 04.08.2016 | Canada Living
Linda Simpson

Who knew that grand-parenting would be so much fun? Who knew I'd be a solo grandma? It was understood in my marriage that somewhere in the future we would be very proud grandparents together. However, like many baby boomers, our marriage didn't make it. I've been single for 20 years and since 2009 I have been a solo grandma.

We Could All Be Chase Martens' Mom

Jennifer Campbell | Posted 04.01.2016 | Canada Parents
Jennifer Campbell

I could see my four-year-old son playing on the slide, but my two-year-old son was out of sight -- not unusual as we had a very large, gated yard. I didn't even have time to cover myself before a woman came around the corner, a look of fury on her face and my two-year-old on her hip. "DO YOU KNOW WHERE I JUST FOUND YOUR CHILD?" she screeched.

Coach Taught Me The World Was Mine For The Taking

Andy Juniper | Posted 03.18.2016 | Canada Living
Andy Juniper

Coach passed away last Friday, having fought the good fight against cancer, the scourge of our times. You may not know Coach, but I hope you know someone like him -- a person who pours water on you when you are about to flame out, who picks you up by the scruff of your neck and puts you back on track, who shows you that there is indeed a big, wide world out there.

Learning To Deal With All Aspects Of The Aging Process

Timi Gustafson, R.D. | Posted 02.17.2016 | Canada Living
Timi Gustafson, R.D.

How much, or how little, does it take for things to go awry as we age? Deteriorating physical and mental health, loss of loved ones, social isolation, and the progressive inability to cope with daily tasks and challenges can make people dread the so-called "golden years" rather than embrace them.

There's No Glossing Over The Loss Of Miscarriage

Noemi LoPinto | Posted 02.15.2016 | Canada Parents
Noemi LoPinto

I think we do all women a disservice when we don't challenge the "Disneyfication" of our reproductive experience. Pregnancy is glorified as transcendent despite its many dark elements. Birth is similarly idealized. But miscarriages resist beatification; at best, they are an extremely efficient expulsion of expired reproductive material by one's own body.

What I Would Ask My Mom If She Were Still Alive

Hannah Spray | Posted 01.28.2016 | Canada Parents
Hannah Spray

The first time I carried a child, I suddenly had this intense urge to be closer to my mom. It was hard going through a pregnancy and a stressful birth experience without my mother's guidance and support (cancer can quit now, OK?), and I keep coming up against questions I really wish I could ask my mama, but that must be left unanswered.

Life After Losing A Mom

Oendrila Majumder | Posted 02.08.2016 | Canada Living
Oendrila Majumder

In 2013, my mother died. The moment when the doctors asked me to "pull the plug," I knew my life would never again be the same. Her death hasn't addressed any questions or fears I had about dying, but it's given me new insights on how to move forward with life.

How To Really Be There For Someone Who Is Dying

Marcia Sirota | Posted 11.16.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

I've learned that when you want to support someone who's critically ill, loving them isn't enough; you have to meet them where they are. That means letting go of your wishful thinking, your denial, or your selfish need to put a positive spin on things and allowing the other person -- the one who's dying -- to set the tone.

Remembering My Miscarriages

Sanober Bukhari | Posted 11.16.2015 | Canada Parents
Sanober Bukhari

One year ago today I experienced my second miscarriage; almost a year prior to that I had the first. Looking back these last two years, I often feel disconnected as if what I went through didn't really happen.

As A Doctor, I Want You To Know Your Miscarriage Isn't Your Fault

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 11.05.2015 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

Women often feel guilt, thinking a stressful event or something like their previous use of oral contraceptives caused the miscarriage. The majority of time, miscarriage is a random, isolated event and a cause can't be determined.

How I Got Through all the 'Firsts' After Losing My Husband to Cancer

Her Magazine | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Living
Her Magazine

It has been 29 days since Matthew physically left us. 29 days since I held Matthew in my arms as he took his last breath. Since I lost a part of myself. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him. In these 29 days I have experienced many firsts, some easier than others.

My Strength From Training Helped Me Care for My Sick Dad

Taylored Training Fitness | Posted 09.25.2015 | Canada Living
Taylored Training Fitness

As an overweight kid who discovered the transformational power of fitness as a teenager, training to improve my fitness and my physique has always been a huge motivator. For many years it was why I trained. But it was not until my father became ill that I truly realized the insurmountable power of fitness.

The Reversal of Fortune Survival Guide

Jen Lawrence | Posted 09.15.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Recently, a friend asked me if I could help a neighbor whose life had fallen apart. I have the bittersweet reputation of being someone who's lived through some soul-shattering events and has managed to stay vertical, so she thought I might be able to offer some comfort and advice.

A Letter to My Younger Self on Understanding Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 09.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Life is for the living. In the years to come you will wake thinking about your son and not his suicide. In accepting loss, your mind will search for memories of life before depression and suicide became part of your lexicon. There will be much work to do in your son's name and in support of youth suicide prevention.

What Grief Taught Me

Marcia Sirota | Posted 07.29.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!" At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece.

The Beauty in Missing

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 07.23.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

I love the subtlety and ambiguity of words, and that no doubt had a lot to do with why I taught English for 23 years, and why I am now pursuing a care...

I Don't Feel Like a Widow, But I Am One

Robin Summerfield | Posted 07.12.2016 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

The truth is I don't feel 44 and I don't feel like a widow. I feel married and 80-years-old. In the past four years, I have aged tremendously, both physically, emotionally and mentally. And in my mind, I am still married. Mike has just been gone a little more than a month.

This Mother's Day, I'm Acknowledging the Painful Side of Motherhood. Loss

Heather van Mil | Posted 05.08.2016 | Canada Parents
Heather van Mil

While Mother's Day is a celebration of love for many, it is a day of pain and grief for so many more. There are many faces of motherhood, some less obvious then others. There are mothers whose arms are empty; suffering from infertility, miscarriages or the death of a child. The world doesn't recognize them as mothers but they are and always will be.

Writing Helps Me Cope With My Son's Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 04.24.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Reading non-fiction and personal memoirs was also an important part of the healing process for me. Reading allowed me to set aside my own emotions and be absorbed in someone else's life. It provided an escape and a road map to writing my son's story.

How to Get Your Mojo Back After a Failure

Tanya Raheel | Posted 04.11.2015 | Canada Impact
Tanya Raheel

The reality is that rebounding and finding your mojo once more after a significant setback, failure or loss involves a lot more than simply "shaking it off" no matter what Taylor Swift says. It takes some essential and necessary stages and actions that if missed will keep you stuck, and stop you from learning and growing from the experience, which no matter how unpleasant is a rich opportunity for personal growth.

Four Tips on How To Deal With Loss and Grief During the Holidays

Alyson Jones | Posted 02.22.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Find ways to honour those you miss. Look at old photos and tell stories of any loved ones you have lost. Honour the expectations that you may have had for relationships, life and even your vision of the season, as they are a part of our story. Let a lost loved one remain alive in you, and be an active part of your experience.