How To Really Be There For Someone Who Is Dying

Marcia Sirota | Posted 11.16.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

I've learned that when you want to support someone who's critically ill, loving them isn't enough; you have to meet them where they are. That means letting go of your wishful thinking, your denial, or your selfish need to put a positive spin on things and allowing the other person -- the one who's dying -- to set the tone.

Remembering My Miscarriages

Sanober Bukhari | Posted 11.16.2015 | Canada Parents
Sanober Bukhari

One year ago today I experienced my second miscarriage; almost a year prior to that I had the first. Looking back these last two years, I often feel disconnected as if what I went through didn't really happen.

As A Doctor, I Want You To Know Your Miscarriage Isn't Your Fault

Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre | Posted 11.05.2015 | Canada Parents
Sunnybrook Health Sciences Centre

Women often feel guilt, thinking a stressful event or something like their previous use of oral contraceptives caused the miscarriage. The majority of time, miscarriage is a random, isolated event and a cause can't be determined.

How I Got Through all the 'Firsts' After Losing My Husband to Cancer

Her Magazine | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Living
Her Magazine

It has been 29 days since Matthew physically left us. 29 days since I held Matthew in my arms as he took his last breath. Since I lost a part of myself. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him. In these 29 days I have experienced many firsts, some easier than others.

My Strength From Training Helped Me Care for My Sick Dad

Taylored Training Fitness | Posted 09.25.2015 | Canada Living
Taylored Training Fitness

As an overweight kid who discovered the transformational power of fitness as a teenager, training to improve my fitness and my physique has always been a huge motivator. For many years it was why I trained. But it was not until my father became ill that I truly realized the insurmountable power of fitness.

The Reversal of Fortune Survival Guide

Jen Lawrence | Posted 09.15.2015 | Canada Living
Jen Lawrence

Recently, a friend asked me if I could help a neighbor whose life had fallen apart. I have the bittersweet reputation of being someone who's lived through some soul-shattering events and has managed to stay vertical, so she thought I might be able to offer some comfort and advice.

A Letter to My Younger Self on Understanding Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 09.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Life is for the living. In the years to come you will wake thinking about your son and not his suicide. In accepting loss, your mind will search for memories of life before depression and suicide became part of your lexicon. There will be much work to do in your son's name and in support of youth suicide prevention.

What Grief Taught Me

Marcia Sirota | Posted 07.29.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!" At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece.

The Beauty in Missing

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 07.23.2015 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

I love the subtlety and ambiguity of words, and that no doubt had a lot to do with why I taught English for 23 years, and why I am now pursuing a care...

I Don't Feel Like a Widow, But I Am One

Robin Summerfield | Posted 07.12.2015 | Canada Living
Robin Summerfield

The truth is I don't feel 44 and I don't feel like a widow. I feel married and 80-years-old. In the past four years, I have aged tremendously, both physically, emotionally and mentally. And in my mind, I am still married. Mike has just been gone a little more than a month.

This Mother's Day, I'm Acknowledging the Painful Side of Motherhood. Loss

Heather van Mil | Posted 05.08.2015 | Canada Parents
Heather van Mil

While Mother's Day is a celebration of love for many, it is a day of pain and grief for so many more. There are many faces of motherhood, some less obvious then others. There are mothers whose arms are empty; suffering from infertility, miscarriages or the death of a child. The world doesn't recognize them as mothers but they are and always will be.

Writing Helps Me Cope With My Son's Suicide

Lynn Keane | Posted 04.24.2015 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

Reading non-fiction and personal memoirs was also an important part of the healing process for me. Reading allowed me to set aside my own emotions and be absorbed in someone else's life. It provided an escape and a road map to writing my son's story.

How to Get Your Mojo Back After a Failure

Tanya Raheel | Posted 04.11.2015 | Canada Impact
Tanya Raheel

The reality is that rebounding and finding your mojo once more after a significant setback, failure or loss involves a lot more than simply "shaking it off" no matter what Taylor Swift says. It takes some essential and necessary stages and actions that if missed will keep you stuck, and stop you from learning and growing from the experience, which no matter how unpleasant is a rich opportunity for personal growth.

Four Tips on How To Deal With Loss and Grief During the Holidays

Alyson Jones | Posted 02.22.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

Find ways to honour those you miss. Look at old photos and tell stories of any loved ones you have lost. Honour the expectations that you may have had for relationships, life and even your vision of the season, as they are a part of our story. Let a lost loved one remain alive in you, and be an active part of your experience.

How to Support Someone Grieving Over the Holidays

Jane Blaufus | Posted 02.03.2015 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

While for many the holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, for others, they are dreading the oncoming festivities because they may mark the 1st, 5th or 50th season without a loved one. No matter what denomination they are or what holiday they celebrate, there is one common factor that binds all of them together: someone they loved is gone.

Losing A Child Can Also Mean Losing Your Support

Jens Locher | Posted 12.15.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Jens Locher

The shifts in friendships and relationships are extreme. The negative ones go all the way to a feeling of being shunned. Here comes the living nightmare, take cover. A couple who lost two children. Sometimes it feels like we have a contagious virus that others try to dodge by avoiding bereaved parents.

How I Found Beauty Through a Loved One's Death

Lori Gard | Posted 08.20.2014 | Canada Impact
Lori Gard

Hope is truly something beautiful. But so very easy to forget when faced with the pain of loss, when faced with the pain of separation. When faced with death. And while we might forget such when in the midst of great trouble, marked by betrayal and rejection, by the tragedy of disease and unexpected loss of both minor and grave proportions.

This Father's Day, I'm Mourning My Dad

Toula Drimonis | Posted 08.15.2014 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

Seven months later and I'm still stunned by the palpable pain I feel in the pit of my chest when I think of him. I marvel at how grief just patiently sits there quietly, waiting for me to suddenly catch a glimpse of someone who looks like him, or for a whiff of someone's Aqua Velva aftershave, that cheap blue stuff he splashed on his face when I was a kid, and suddenly pain, like a searing knife, cuts through me. Seven months of firsts. The first Christmas without him, first New Years' celebrations, first Easter, and now... the first Father's Day.

Were There Signs I Didn't See Before My Son's Suicide?

Lynn Keane | Posted 08.02.2014 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

What were the signs? This question is one that I find myself still struggling to answer five years after my son's suicide. Could the changes we notice be part of our kids' reactions to the pressures we place on them as well as the pressures they heap on themselves?

How Do You Celebrate Holidays After Losing a Loved One?

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 01.27.2014 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

The idea of a jolly holiday is like rubbing salt in the wound when our loved one isn't there. Honour your grief. You may find a completely new way of handling celebratory occasions by starting new traditions, or you may feel more comfortable sticking to old ones. Either way, you will know what feels right.

Camping out With Death

Emelia Symington Fedy | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Emelia Symington Fedy

My mother is dying. When it got to be too much at home we put her in hospice. Hospice, for those who are not familiar with the term, is a place where folks go to die. The criteria to enter are you have three-six months left to live with an expectation of no heroic measures. The goal is comfort and dignity in your final days. My brother and I camp out in the room with my mom. Me in the Murphy bed and him on the Lazy Boy. We fall asleep listening to her whisper to herself and hallucinate on the shadows she makes with her hands. My mom had lung cancer and it progressed to her brain, so she is not safe to be alone anymore. She could fall. She could leave and get lost. She could take all her clothes off and run the halls naked. So we move in to the tiny room with her.

Learning to Live With Grief

Lynda Fishman | Posted 11.23.2013 | Canada Impact
Lynda Fishman

For almost four decades, I did not talk about the plane crash. Instead, I buried the tragedy and any associated feelings of grief as deep down as possible. That was the way tragedies and death were dealt with in the 70s. I was told, directly and indirectly, that the subject was closed, never to be discussed... the subject of death was unmentionable.

It's Okay To Be Selfish After Loss

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 11.17.2013 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

It can be so easy to become overwhelmed with what you think you should or shouldn't be doing with your time. Yet, when you've experienced the loss of a family member who was so close, you need to remember that it is okay to be a little selfish about how you run your life.

"This Is What I Need!": On Being Direct After Loss

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 11.04.2013 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

I learned early on when I was coping with my baby's death -- and again after my husband died -- that I had to be very specific about what I did or did not need from those around me. I used to be a shy person.. As I was working through my grief process, however, I started to see that a new, bolder side of my personality was begging to come out.

September: Life Insurance Awareness Month

Jane Blaufus | Posted 11.04.2013 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

This weekend a piece of Ontario history burned to the ground with the overnight loss of the St. Jacob's farmer's market. Ironically, my husband and I ...