#Loss

How to Support Someone Grieving Over the Holidays

Jane Blaufus | Posted 12.04.2014 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

While for many the holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, for others, they are dreading the oncoming festivities because they may mark the 1st, 5th or 50th season without a loved one. No matter what denomination they are or what holiday they celebrate, there is one common factor that binds all of them together: someone they loved is gone.

Losing A Child Can Also Mean Losing Your Support

Jens Locher | Posted 12.15.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Jens Locher

The shifts in friendships and relationships are extreme. The negative ones go all the way to a feeling of being shunned. Here comes the living nightmare, take cover. A couple who lost two children. Sometimes it feels like we have a contagious virus that others try to dodge by avoiding bereaved parents.

How I Found Beauty Through a Loved One's Death

Lori Gard | Posted 08.20.2014 | Canada Impact
Lori Gard

Hope is truly something beautiful. But so very easy to forget when faced with the pain of loss, when faced with the pain of separation. When faced with death. And while we might forget such when in the midst of great trouble, marked by betrayal and rejection, by the tragedy of disease and unexpected loss of both minor and grave proportions.

This Father's Day, I'm Mourning My Dad

Toula Drimonis | Posted 08.15.2014 | Canada Living
Toula Drimonis

Seven months later and I'm still stunned by the palpable pain I feel in the pit of my chest when I think of him. I marvel at how grief just patiently sits there quietly, waiting for me to suddenly catch a glimpse of someone who looks like him, or for a whiff of someone's Aqua Velva aftershave, that cheap blue stuff he splashed on his face when I was a kid, and suddenly pain, like a searing knife, cuts through me. Seven months of firsts. The first Christmas without him, first New Years' celebrations, first Easter, and now... the first Father's Day.

Were There Signs I Didn't See Before My Son's Suicide?

Lynn Keane | Posted 08.02.2014 | Canada Living
Lynn Keane

What were the signs? This question is one that I find myself still struggling to answer five years after my son's suicide. Could the changes we notice be part of our kids' reactions to the pressures we place on them as well as the pressures they heap on themselves?

How Do You Celebrate Holidays After Losing a Loved One?

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 01.27.2014 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

The idea of a jolly holiday is like rubbing salt in the wound when our loved one isn't there. Honour your grief. You may find a completely new way of handling celebratory occasions by starting new traditions, or you may feel more comfortable sticking to old ones. Either way, you will know what feels right.

Camping out With Death

Emelia Symington Fedy | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Emelia Symington Fedy

My mother is dying. When it got to be too much at home we put her in hospice. Hospice, for those who are not familiar with the term, is a place where folks go to die. The criteria to enter are you have three-six months left to live with an expectation of no heroic measures. The goal is comfort and dignity in your final days. My brother and I camp out in the room with my mom. Me in the Murphy bed and him on the Lazy Boy. We fall asleep listening to her whisper to herself and hallucinate on the shadows she makes with her hands. My mom had lung cancer and it progressed to her brain, so she is not safe to be alone anymore. She could fall. She could leave and get lost. She could take all her clothes off and run the halls naked. So we move in to the tiny room with her.

Learning to Live With Grief

Lynda Fishman | Posted 11.23.2013 | Canada Impact
Lynda Fishman

For almost four decades, I did not talk about the plane crash. Instead, I buried the tragedy and any associated feelings of grief as deep down as possible. That was the way tragedies and death were dealt with in the 70s. I was told, directly and indirectly, that the subject was closed, never to be discussed... the subject of death was unmentionable.

It's Okay To Be Selfish After Loss

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 11.17.2013 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

It can be so easy to become overwhelmed with what you think you should or shouldn't be doing with your time. Yet, when you've experienced the loss of a family member who was so close, you need to remember that it is okay to be a little selfish about how you run your life.

"This Is What I Need!": On Being Direct After Loss

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 11.04.2013 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Berrien

I learned early on when I was coping with my baby's death -- and again after my husband died -- that I had to be very specific about what I did or did not need from those around me. I used to be a shy person.. As I was working through my grief process, however, I started to see that a new, bolder side of my personality was begging to come out.

September: Life Insurance Awareness Month

Jane Blaufus | Posted 11.04.2013 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

This weekend a piece of Ontario history burned to the ground with the overnight loss of the St. Jacob's farmer's market. Ironically, my husband and I ...

How I Learned to Trust After Loss

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 10.27.2013 | Canada Impact
Elizabeth Berrien

How does one trust in life again after experiencing two tragic losses? This is a question that I've asked myself since losing my son to stillbirth after a healthy 9-month pregnancy, followed just 18-months later by the death of my husband, a soldier serving in Afghanistan. How could I ever trust in anything again?

Find Your Passion, Realize Your Purpose

Jane Blaufus | Posted 08.01.2013 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

I asked myself if I believed that suddenly becoming a widow with a twelve-and-a-half year old daughter, going through hell, coming out the other side of it upright, and subsequently remarrying was a story in itself. It was. Then I had to ask myself the really tough questions.

What Will Your Legacy Be?

Jane Blaufus | Posted 07.20.2013 | Canada Living
Jane Blaufus

Recently a 97-year-old New York man left his $40 million fortune to....no one. People need to encourage their friends and family to start sharing their wishes and their wants...to make it an acceptable discussion topic.

Nothing in Life is Permanent, So Let it Go

Meghan Pearson | Posted 06.08.2013 | Canada Living
Meghan Pearson

Last August I was again reminded about the impermanence of things. Of life, of ideas, of the present. As the two year anniversary of my father's passing approaches, I find myself reminiscing about him to be sure, but also about my grandmother, his mum, and thinking about her passing this past summer.

Take it From a Widow: Friendship and Grief Don't Always Mix

Ann Bacciaglia | Posted 01.27.2013 | Canada Living
Ann Bacciaglia

I am a widow. Friendships, I learned, are not immune to grief. Despite what you may think, some friends will leave you when you need them the most. Perhaps they don't know what to say or how to act. After speaking to people in similar situations, I now realize that in many cases, friendship and grief do not mix.