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Just because you pay for their wedding, doesn't make it your wedding.
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I've learned a lot from my three daughters over the past 28 years of being a mom to them. My husband and I are in the thick of our first wedding, with our eldest getting married October 14th, 2017, and let me tell you, there is a huge difference between planning your own wedding, and assisting your child in planning theirs.
My ex-husband and I are divorced. It is not amicable. We just co-exist. We are both remarried. My daughter wants us to both walk her down the aisle. I agree, and so does my ex. I went to my current husband. He threw a tantrum and stated that "everyone" will think that my ex and I are still married."
Mothers often panic when faced with having to search for a dress for their child's wedding. Most mothers don't have the same figure they had when they were brides. The good news is that if you know which styles best suit your figure, you are more than halfway there! To make the process easier, I have listed specific figure issues or body types.
One of the biggest mistakes mothers make is in breathing a sigh of relief once they have decided upon their dress, and completely forgetting about the accessories. Accessories are to a mother's dress what a frame is to a painting. It completes the picture and draws the eye in.
Sticky situation: I've met a wonderful guy and we're planning on getting married sometime this fall. This will be a second wedding for both of us. Neither of us would like a large, elaborate wedding. In fact, we want to simply elope and have a private ceremony with just the two of us. Unfortunately, both my mother and his mother do not like this idea.
All day, everyday, I have brides (and mothers by extension) walk through the door with fabric swatches in their hands. The swatches are the colour of the bridesmaid's dresses, flowers, tablecloths, ribbons and even carpeting! Leave the swatches to the interior designers and find a colour that looks stunning on you.
Many women think that "petite" means small, when in fact it doesn't. There are a number of women who are short and plus size. They are often shocked to find out that they are "petite" -- women's petite. Unfortunately, women's petite is the most difficult specialty size to obtain.
The first thing a man does when he purchases a suit is to head to alterations. I've never understood why women don't typically allow themselves the same courtesy. Just as a bride has a fitting for her dress, so should a mother. Remember, mothers, you're walking down the aisle too!
Every year countless women are caught off guard not realizing the impact that Chinese New Years has on shipping dates for special occasion merchandise. This holiday accounts for nearly a month of factory shut down. This translates into a far longer delivery time for orders than most customers allow for.
Arguably, the toughest dress to buy in the entire wedding party is that of the mother of the bride -- or the mother of the groom! Simply stated, a mother has a much tougher time than the bride. After all, it's the mother's day too!
As a co-owner and dress consultant at T.Carolyn Fashions, I navigate the front lines of family conflict -- helping moms look great and satisfying the bride's often strident opinions. The Spring '13 Collection is the best I've seen in years! Diversity and innovation best describe the latest fashions for mothers of the bride (or groom). Here are my seven fashion trends for spring.
When it comes to dresses for Mother of the Bride, it's definitely not one-size-fits-all. Petite women should avoid large, full skirts that over power their height and frame. Plus-sized women should look for dresses or gowns that are ruched in soft fabrics. For tall gals fuller skirts and stiffer fabrics may be worn. Mothers don't need any additional stress.
Even with 21 years in the business and 100,000 dresses sold, dressing a mother of the bride can be more challenging than dressing the actual bride! As the holidays approach, I wanted to share my advice on how mother of the brides/mother of the grooms should dress for their son or daughter's wedding during this magical season.