Online dating can be intimidating -- especially for those of you who have been out of the dating game for a while. You may wonder if it's safe, how comfortable you feel competing in such an open forum, how you will handle potential rejection, or how you will feel perhaps not getting any attention at all. Here are my best practices for successful online dating.
Inspired by the popularity of online dating, Associate Professor Catherine Sabiston is hoping to help cancer patients find their perfect exercise "match" post-treatment. "One of the biggest barriers that women with cancer identify is lack of social support," said Sabiston. "They say that if they just had someone to knock on their door and pull them out of the house, they'd exercise. It made me wonder how to match these women with other women so that they can get that social support and hopefully exercise more."
He walks in, smiling. I like people that smile. I smile A LOT. Within minutes of the date, he shows me pictures of his cat. Don't be foiled by an eyebrow ring, ladies. Sometimes the edgy looking ones are big softies. He LOVES cats! He shows me many pictures of his kitty, including painted portraits.
Social media often gets a bad reputation for how it impacts relationships; however, I truly believe it has the ability to benefit and enhance personal interactions. And it's not just for romantic interests, although that is something that is becoming more popular; social media offers opportunities for creating and maintaining relationships, whether with family, friendships or partners.
I can't believe I did it. I hit the heart button on a guy with KIDS in his profile picture. Not one, but TWO kids! How mature do I think I am? Still...(deep breath) he is attractive. And I am 34. I have to face the fact that guys in my age bracket might have offspring, whether it was on purpose, or they forgot to pull out.
A couple beers in, we're both yawning. The conversation starts to dry up. We're now talking the ceiling fixtures. Talking about lamps hanging from the ceiling is a sign we're both starting to space out. I'm also getting tweets from my comedian guy friends, who know I'm on a date. All of a sudden, I wish I was with them.
"We're the same age, aren't we? You're 27?" He says. UH-OH! "Um... no, actually...I think I'm a little older," I spit out, along with a laugh that sounds like I might be choking. "Really? How old are you?" all of a sudden, I'm feeling a little cougary. So I suggest a place that's good to take a younger man.
The Huffington Post reported earlier this year that more than one third of people meet their significant others online and those relationships are 25 per cent less likely to end in separation or divorce. So why is there still a slight stigma attached to it? As someone who met their longtime boyfriend online and an ongoing sideline spectator of my friends' experiences, I can share what I know.
Last week, the popular online dating site, Plenty of Fish, announced new features to try to weed out fake profiles. Whether you're for or against the gesture, it's difficult to think of the update as anything but that. We have become a society immersed in mass habitual tinkering in the gap between who we are and who we present ourselves to be, always at work on our personal "brand."