I wish I had followed this advice years ago; it would have given me a huge headstart on my pursuit of happiness. But I know it now, and I'm passing it on to you. After many years as a psychologist committed to making New Yorkers' lives happier, I've arrived at the conclusion that the single best piece of advice for finding greater happiness
I am proud of where I am today and who I have become. I am the result of all of my experiences -- the good, the bad, and the not so good. And, I wouldn't go back and change a thing. So, to those that I have worked with, worked for, and known throughout that almost 40 years of workplace experience, thank you. You are part of my whole.
Some people are extremely creative and productive. They're prolific writers, painters and musicians; they're visionary designers, architects and speakers. It's as though they experience no obstacles to producing a constant flow of high-quality work. Some people are just lucky and their productivity comes naturally. The rest of us can learn their secrets and discover, for ourselves, that amazing state of flow.
As you gain distance from the early days of babies and toddlers, preschool and elementary school, from this place above the trees you can finally see. Like that mama bird sitting up high in the tree, you stand now as a humble mom of 17 years, better able to discern where you've been and where you're going.
Feelings are great, when they're positive. We smile and high-five to share our exuberance. As co-parents after divorce, we're more in the negative territory at first -- anger, sadness, longing. Who wants to feel those? Easier to ignore them, or distract ourselves with a glass of wine or a movie until the feelings go away.
Boundaries help us define who we are and provides us with a definite sense of self. While setting boundaries and learning to say no is an ideal opportunity to gain a sense of self, it also helps us to rediscover who we are, our personal values, and what's important to us. Most people have a hard time setting personal boundaries, particularly within their relationships.
I like to conduct year-end reviews of myself. I review my intentions from the previous year. Where did I move forward? Where did I not? Where must I course correct to steer my life and business in my intended direction? I ask myself what I truly want for the upcoming year and I determine my plan of action.
One of the earliest memories from my childhood is when you'd come home, I'd help you take your shoes and socks off. Memory is a funny thing though; it's not always accurate, but more importantly, and particularly in your case, it's oftentimes fleeting, and unreliable. You may not remember this, or at times fail to even understand, you have an illness called dementia.
One of the things that entrepreneurs often find challenging during the summer is staying focused and on track. Many have confessed to me that one day off for a break led to two, which led to three, which led to weeks off in some cases. Now, they are dreading trying to get the engine up and running again so that September is not a write-off.
Dr. Wayne Dyer's a man who has spent most of his life teaching his philosophy to a better way of living. If everyone would adopt Dr. Dyer's teachings, the world would be a much better place. That was his mission. Though it saddens me to hear of Dr. Dyer's passing, his teachings will live on for many generations to come.