I'm torn because my family always comes first, but I also have these ideas and opportunities and the iron is hot and I'm not getting any younger and this is my time, bitch. I'm riddled with guilt just typing that, because society and my upbringing and all that bullshit has programmed me to believe I'm a mother now, so I'm supposed to sacrifice my own dreams for everyone else's. But I'm determined to try my best to fuck that noise and do it all, even if I don't do any of it perfectly. I'd rather live with failure than regret.
When news of the Duchess of Cambridge's second pregnancy was announced on September 8, the Internet immediately exploded into a flurry of excitement. What about the other face of pregnancy, the one which is rarely discussed? Who is sharing the tales of these women, as they are no longer here to share their own unhappy endings?
Men, just remember that a vasectomy won't stop you from pitching a tent. It simply means that when the volcano erupts, the lava won't flow and the villagers won't have to run for their lives. Why not man up and undergo a routine procedure that you won't even feel or remember, one that's along the lines of your circumcision (if you had one, and if you didn't, then along the lines of your first routine infant vaccination)?
Before I delivered by first son I knew basically nothing about post-delivery recovery. I knew a minimal amount from medical school. There would be bleeding and soreness. I didn't need a medical degree to assume that. What to really expect was a mystery. These aren't things that moms and moms-to-be discuss very often, at least not in my social circle.
I am jealous of anyone who says they LOVED being pregnant. I can't say I felt the same when I was carrying my two. From the nausea and vomiting, to endless heartburn I found it less than enjoyable most of the time. I did however manage to feel well enough to work and exercise until the day I delivered by following these tips.
Last month, it was reported that an Edmonton woman was badly beaten by her spouse. Though the attack put her in the hospital, the police offered a silver lining by stating that her unborn baby, at least, wasn't harmed. Sadly, this claim underestimates the profound effect severe stress can have on children's development in their first years of life, including while they're still in the womb.
When I finally got married at 37, I was worried that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant. But it happened in a flash on our honeymoon and we had a son. I was one of my only friends who openly wanted a second child. So began the trying; a summer of love. Which then turned into a fall of resentment. Now my sister and I are in the waiting cubicle of an IVF suite in downtown Toronto.
It's the age old question ... well maybe not the age old question, but it has to be in the pregnancy top ten: Should I exercise while I am pregnant? And, what is "too much" when it comes to working out with a baby bump? Not only will exercising keep you in top condition for when baby arrives, but it can also improve the health of your baby.
If painting the baby's nursery is a part of your pre-natal plans, use latex (water-based) products in a well-ventilated area. Avoid oil-based paints, paint thinners, varnish removers and substances such as lacquer. Many solvents give off volatile compounds that can put you at greater risk of pre-eclampsia (high blood pressure in pregnancy).
The very idea of "push presents" sounds too much like a Sex and the City episode gone wrong. Don't get me wrong; there's a great sentiment behind push presents. If a man does something to recognize the emotional and physical stress of carrying a child of his own volition, it's a lovely gesture. But new mothers shouldn't let a trickle-down trend from Hollywood lead them to expect diamonds and sapphires, and new fathers shouldn't feel pressured into giving them.
When was the last time you saw a pregnant woman sipping a beer? If you are North American, the answer might be never. You might also be surprised to learn that in much of Europe, it's actually not unusual at all. Now, more and more women I know are choosing not to totally abstain from alcohol during their pregnancies. And everyone in their lives are completely losing their minds about it.
Thanks to Caroline Berg Eriksen's post-pregnancy selfie that she took just four days after giving birth to her daughter we have been pulled back into the "what should women's bodies look like?" debate. Let's stop paying so much attention to the bodies that we can't relate to and start embracing, celebrating and taking care of the ones we do.
If you're pregnant, you're probably already well-accustomed to being asked "Do you know what you're having?" Even if you're not going to find out your baby's sex by ultrasound, it's still fun to predict whether you're having a boy or a girl, and there are dozens of old wives' tales that claim to help you do just that.
Like moths to a flame, pregnant women seem attract of a barrage of insensitive and obnoxious unsolicited opinions and comments. We get it. This whole belly thing is new and unusual. Except that pregnant bellies have been around since the beginning of time. So not that new, or unusual. Here are some gems women rocking bellies of any size will likely hear on any given day.
At long last, people are talking about postpartum depression. Dismissed for years as no more than a touch of the baby blues (or else unheard of entirely), PPD has become an open subject. But despite this progress, postpartum depression remains misunderstood in one very critical regard: namely, that it's something that only happens to, and thus only adversely affects, mothers.
My life has been "busy" and a lot of work for quite some time now, and that's something I don't want to change. I still take the necessary time to unplug and fill myself and my family up, but cannot deny that I also thrive off of creating and growing in business. That will likely always be part of me, even with a new baby at my side. My work is very much tied into what I want to create for my family to benefit from. I have complete respect for the women who grow up with a complete focus on wanting to stay home and raise a family... but for me, part of what I want to represent to my children is showing them that they have the ability to "have it all."