Raising Children

My Parents Killed My Self-Esteem - Now I'm Done Taking Criticism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 02.03.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

I was 14 and shocked by all the criticisms suddenly blind-siding me. They ranged from making me believe I was an (almost) slut to something as vague as, "Shake my hand and commit to 'trying harder.'" To this day I wonder how much harder I could try. I already had a 4.0 GPA.

Dear Tired Mama: You Will Survive

Lori Gard | Posted 01.15.2016 | Canada Parents
Lori Gard

You wonder if it will ever get better. Wonder, too, if there really is a light at the end of the tunnel. Wonder incessantly if you will ever have energy again. All while you also wonder if you ever will see a semblance of your former self again. I hear you, friend, and I truly feel for you. I remember those days.

5 Reasons Toddlers Are Actually Really Awesome

Hannah Spray | Posted 01.14.2016 | Canada Parents
Hannah Spray

Toddlers get a bad rap. Caused by communication frustrations, feeling helpless to control their own lives, experiencing an influx of new hormones and emotions, and constantly pounded with large quantities of new information to process to throw tantrums and test our limits many times, in many ways.

Top 10 Travel Products For Adventuring Families

Amanda Blakley | Posted 12.22.2015 | Canada Parents
Amanda Blakley

As a seasoned traveller, my wanderlust runs deep (from backpacking to business travel, I have circled the globe numerous times). Now as a mother of two, I am passionate about cultivating and passing along that love of travel to my children by placing an importance on collecting experiences, not things.

5 Pieces Of Parenting Advice You Should Ignore

Megan Howarth | Posted 12.08.2015 | Canada Parents
Megan Howarth

The moment you announce your pregnancy the entire world suddenly feels the urge to share all their tried and tested tips and advice. It doesn't matter that you're an adult and have, presumably, gotten through life so far relying on your own common sense and life skills.

Our Differences Strengthen The Sisterhood Of Motherhood

Megan Howarth | Posted 10.29.2015 | Canada Parents
Megan Howarth

Forget the mommy wars. Companies pit us against each other and sell more products. Once we realize that mommy wars don't exist and that we are all actually just trying to do whatever works best for us we can focus on talking about our differences and opening ourselves up to what others are doing and have to say.

How to Keep Your Kids Organized

Alyson Schafer | Posted 10.13.2015 | Canada Parents
Alyson Schafer

Have some structures in place that help support order and routines and which ultimately teach children how to be self-reliant over time. Remember -- the goal of parenting is to work yourself out of a job, not raise a dependent who is a failure to launch, as the saying goes.

Overparenting Is Doing More Harm Than Good

Her Magazine | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Parents
Her Magazine

Overparenting, over-managing, over-involved. This is how we would describe our generation of parents. It comes from a good place of course -- we love them and want to protect them. We want them to be the best in whatever they undertake. But what are we really protecting them from?

7 Things My Children Have Taught Me About Love

Lynn Morrison | Posted 10.06.2015 | Canada Parents
Lynn Morrison

People always say that they never knew what love was until they had children. Before having kids of my own, I assumed that this phrase referenced the amazing, unconditional love a mother has for her progeny, a bottomless supply required to overcome challenges such as poop-smeared walls and 24+ hours of labor.

How Kids Can Make a Difference

Debbie Wolfe | Posted 06.29.2015 | Canada Impact
Debbie Wolfe

Study after study indicates that parents, schools and community members all have a role to play in developing caring, ethical children. But how do we do that in a way that's less about layering on the duty and obligation? How do we nurture a child's own instincts about what's needed in the world, and help them find their own unique way to give?

Six Steps to Becoming a Hero to Your Children

Alyson Jones | Posted 06.21.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

The problem for many parents is that they want to become friends with their children, rather than heroes. Our children do not need more friends, and they certainly do not need their parents competing with their friends for their attention. But as a hero, you can find a way to transform challenge into growth.

Dear Working Father: Here's How You Can "Pay" Your Stay-At-Home Wife

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 06.09.2015 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

As a woman and a mother, who has been both a SAHM and working mum, here's a few suggestions as to how you can really repay your beautiful wife. I apologize in advance if you are already doing all of this. You sound like a great guy, so it's quite likely that you are. If you're not, here's what you could do.

Dear Daughter, Here's Why I Don't Work

Lydia Lovric | Posted 05.24.2015 | Canada Living
Lydia Lovric

The feminists may not like it, dear daughter, but even if I made it to the very top of my profession, even if I drove a fancy company car and went on a slew of business trips, I would feel like an utter failure if any of my kids felt the need to ask me if I loved work more than I loved them.

Why It's Important I Bring My Kids To Vancouver For Christmas

Chris Taylor | Posted 02.07.2015 | Canada British Columbia
Chris Taylor

The West Coast is a part of who their father is. And that's an important thing for them to know.

Four Words That Changed the Way I See My Children

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 01.11.2015 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

I've repeated this phrase since then, on many occasions. During the good, the bad, and even the mundane and pedestrian parts of my parenting journey. Parenthood can often feel like a desperate race through the "phases," always hurtling forward, always wishing this current phase was over, that the children would be more independent, less clingy, less messy, less fidgety, less screamy, less whiney.

What My Child With Autism Has Taught Me

Kathleen O’Grady | Posted 12.17.2014 | Canada Living
Kathleen O’Grady

It was an ordinary summer day. People were milling on the main thoroughfare, bikes zig-zagging through traffic, cafés and pubs spilling onto the sidewalk, patrons sipping their way through a lazy Friday afternoon. We were ordinary that day too. Just another family, managing the hectic jumble of kids' lessons, bills, our careers, endless streams of birthday parties, too little sleep and the occasional date night out. But it was all shattered with a single word: autism.

10 Tips To Move Families Out of B.C. Teachers' Strike Limbo

Alyson Jones | Posted 11.01.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Alyson Jones

Blame generally does not help resolve issues, and it is a poor platform to negotiate from regardless of the issue. Blame is not going to help us get our children back in school, nor is it going to assist us in dealing with the reality that is about to hit.

Why I Am no Longer a Stay-At-Home Parent

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 10.20.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Children are an incredible paradox. They bring so much joy, so many tender moments, so many blissful times when you're just enjoying them, and they're enjoying you, and you're laughing at something funny your toddler said, or something adorable your baby did. And then there's the other 23 hours and 30 minutes of the day you have to get through.

Things I Can and Can't Blame My Children For

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 10.19.2014 | Canada
Dr. Carolyn Ee

People, not parents, struggle to find the time and energy to do the things they know they should. Anyhow, it struck me that there are some things I can (and will!) blame my children for, cheerfully, and some things that I resolve I will not blame them for. I want them to know I can prioritise what's important for my own wellbeing, so that they can learn from me.

5 Ways to Survive Living With Your Parents as a 20-Something

Caitlin McKay | Posted 10.08.2014 | Canada Living
Caitlin McKay

There are no secret dates no matter how hard you try. Turns out, my parents are kind of smart. I didn't want my dates to meet my parents because, well, I didn't want to have that awkward "let me introduce you to my mom" exchange. She asks everyone extremely personal questions. So I lied about my dates. Luckily, or unfortunately, (depending on your perspective) I didn't have to lie a lot.

To My Four-Year-Old Daughter: I'm Sorry

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

My dearest little girl, sometimes I forget that you're only four years old. Actually, a month ago you were just three. Maybe I expect too much from you at times because you're a big sister now. Maybe it's because I just haven't taken the time and effort to see things from your bright little eyes. But my darling, I am slowly learning to do exactly this, and I'm sorry I sometimes forget.

Keep Gender Stereotypes Out of Raising Kids

Jenn Neilson | Posted 08.04.2014 | Canada Living
Jenn Neilson

With kids growing up surrounded by advertising, movies and TV, toys, books, and clothes that tell them that some things are for girls, and others are for boys, we're already fighting an uphill battle if our goal is to raise girls who know that they can solve tough, real world problems, and boys who are interested in collaboration, not just competition.

Why Parents of Olympians Aren't Better Than the Average Mom or Dad

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

When the daughter you've been driving to ballet class every Saturday for 12 years tells you she wants to focus on the history of dance as her $20,000 a year university major, you might pause and point out the successful engineers you know. Most parents push academic over athletic when push comes to shove.

My Daughter Can Be A Princess If She Wants To

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 07.02.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Here's what I have to say for those who worry their daughters might turn into princesses, as in helpless silly females who value the superficial only and have no problem-solving skills. Just don't be a princess yourself. Be assertive. Gain control over your emotions. Display strength and courage and resilience. Don't read women's magazines.

Parents, Remember You Are Your Child's Number One Teacher

Lori Gard | Posted 04.12.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Teach your children well -- teach them about life and love and joy and sorrow. Teach them to be honest and kind. Teach them to be thoughtful and generous. Teach your children to care for others. Let your own life be the living textbook that your children read. May it be among the most inspiring books they ever open!