Raising Children

How Kids Can Make a Difference

Debbie Wolfe | Posted 06.29.2015 | Canada Impact
Debbie Wolfe

Study after study indicates that parents, schools and community members all have a role to play in developing caring, ethical children. But how do we do that in a way that's less about layering on the duty and obligation? How do we nurture a child's own instincts about what's needed in the world, and help them find their own unique way to give?

Six Steps to Becoming a Hero to Your Children

Alyson Jones | Posted 06.21.2015 | Canada Living
Alyson Jones

The problem for many parents is that they want to become friends with their children, rather than heroes. Our children do not need more friends, and they certainly do not need their parents competing with their friends for their attention. But as a hero, you can find a way to transform challenge into growth.

Dear Working Father: Here's How You Can "Pay" Your Stay-At-Home Wife

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 06.09.2015 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

As a woman and a mother, who has been both a SAHM and working mum, here's a few suggestions as to how you can really repay your beautiful wife. I apologize in advance if you are already doing all of this. You sound like a great guy, so it's quite likely that you are. If you're not, here's what you could do.

Dear Daughter, Here's Why I Don't Work

Lydia Lovric | Posted 05.24.2015 | Canada Living
Lydia Lovric

The feminists may not like it, dear daughter, but even if I made it to the very top of my profession, even if I drove a fancy company car and went on a slew of business trips, I would feel like an utter failure if any of my kids felt the need to ask me if I loved work more than I loved them.

Why It's Important I Bring My Kids To Vancouver For Christmas

Chris Taylor | Posted 02.07.2015 | Canada British Columbia
Chris Taylor

The West Coast is a part of who their father is. And that's an important thing for them to know.

Four Words That Changed the Way I See My Children

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 01.11.2015 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

I've repeated this phrase since then, on many occasions. During the good, the bad, and even the mundane and pedestrian parts of my parenting journey. Parenthood can often feel like a desperate race through the "phases," always hurtling forward, always wishing this current phase was over, that the children would be more independent, less clingy, less messy, less fidgety, less screamy, less whiney.

What My Child With Autism Has Taught Me

Kathleen O’Grady | Posted 12.17.2014 | Canada Living
Kathleen O’Grady

It was an ordinary summer day. People were milling on the main thoroughfare, bikes zig-zagging through traffic, cafés and pubs spilling onto the sidewalk, patrons sipping their way through a lazy Friday afternoon. We were ordinary that day too. Just another family, managing the hectic jumble of kids' lessons, bills, our careers, endless streams of birthday parties, too little sleep and the occasional date night out. But it was all shattered with a single word: autism.

10 Tips To Move Families Out of B.C. Teachers' Strike Limbo

Alyson Jones | Posted 11.01.2014 | Canada British Columbia
Alyson Jones

Blame generally does not help resolve issues, and it is a poor platform to negotiate from regardless of the issue. Blame is not going to help us get our children back in school, nor is it going to assist us in dealing with the reality that is about to hit.

Why I Am no Longer a Stay-At-Home Parent

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 10.20.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Children are an incredible paradox. They bring so much joy, so many tender moments, so many blissful times when you're just enjoying them, and they're enjoying you, and you're laughing at something funny your toddler said, or something adorable your baby did. And then there's the other 23 hours and 30 minutes of the day you have to get through.

Things I Can and Can't Blame My Children For

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 10.19.2014 | Canada
Dr. Carolyn Ee

People, not parents, struggle to find the time and energy to do the things they know they should. Anyhow, it struck me that there are some things I can (and will!) blame my children for, cheerfully, and some things that I resolve I will not blame them for. I want them to know I can prioritise what's important for my own wellbeing, so that they can learn from me.

5 Ways to Survive Living With Your Parents as a 20-Something

Caitlin McKay | Posted 10.08.2014 | Canada Living
Caitlin McKay

There are no secret dates no matter how hard you try. Turns out, my parents are kind of smart. I didn't want my dates to meet my parents because, well, I didn't want to have that awkward "let me introduce you to my mom" exchange. She asks everyone extremely personal questions. So I lied about my dates. Luckily, or unfortunately, (depending on your perspective) I didn't have to lie a lot.

To My Four-Year-Old Daughter: I'm Sorry

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

My dearest little girl, sometimes I forget that you're only four years old. Actually, a month ago you were just three. Maybe I expect too much from you at times because you're a big sister now. Maybe it's because I just haven't taken the time and effort to see things from your bright little eyes. But my darling, I am slowly learning to do exactly this, and I'm sorry I sometimes forget.

Keep Gender Stereotypes Out of Raising Kids

Jenn Neilson | Posted 08.04.2014 | Canada Living
Jenn Neilson

With kids growing up surrounded by advertising, movies and TV, toys, books, and clothes that tell them that some things are for girls, and others are for boys, we're already fighting an uphill battle if our goal is to raise girls who know that they can solve tough, real world problems, and boys who are interested in collaboration, not just competition.

Why Parents of Olympians Aren't Better Than the Average Mom or Dad

Kathy Buckworth | Posted 07.26.2014 | Canada Living
Kathy Buckworth

When the daughter you've been driving to ballet class every Saturday for 12 years tells you she wants to focus on the history of dance as her $20,000 a year university major, you might pause and point out the successful engineers you know. Most parents push academic over athletic when push comes to shove.

My Daughter Can Be A Princess If She Wants To

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 07.02.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

Here's what I have to say for those who worry their daughters might turn into princesses, as in helpless silly females who value the superficial only and have no problem-solving skills. Just don't be a princess yourself. Be assertive. Gain control over your emotions. Display strength and courage and resilience. Don't read women's magazines.

Parents, Remember You Are Your Child's Number One Teacher

Lori Gard | Posted 04.12.2014 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Teach your children well -- teach them about life and love and joy and sorrow. Teach them to be honest and kind. Teach them to be thoughtful and generous. Teach your children to care for others. Let your own life be the living textbook that your children read. May it be among the most inspiring books they ever open!

Having Difficult Conversations With Kids

Danielle S. McLaughlin | Posted 04.07.2014 | Canada Living
Danielle S. McLaughlin

If parents and teachers want their children to grow up to be fine people and citizens of the world, the kind of people who make a difference, we need to be fearless. We need to engage our children in very difficult conversations. You know what I mean, the conversations we all dread.

Why I'm a Fan of Tough Love Parenting

Sue Nador | Posted 02.19.2014 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

I was never the "good job" kind of mom. My two sons didn't get standing ovations for doing ordinary party tricks like learning to use the potty, eating broccoli or making their beds. Nope, I never subscribed to the theory that "good job" parenting would minimize their risk of becoming future psychopaths.

Why Daycare Can Have a Negative Effect on Your Child

Jonas Himmelstrand | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Jonas Himmelstrand

North Americans are presented with a vision of heavenly perfection in Swedish daycare but in reality, education outcomes are declining, teens are anxiety-ridden and misbehaving and the quality of parenting is suffering. Let's start with the ever deteriorating psychological health of Swedish youth, which has become a major concern in Swedish public debate today.

Doing Away With the Honour Roll and Awards System in Schools is Absurd

Stephanie Knaak | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Stephanie Knaak

Somewhere along the way, we've adopted some goofy misguided idea that children's psyches are inherently, staggeringly fragile, prone to devastating and irreversible damage from any number of relatively benign phenomena -- like honour rolls, sporting activities where only the winning team gets a trophy, or track and field days with actual competition (oh, the horror!).

Moms, Take a Second to Hug Your Kids - They Need It

Lori Gard | Posted 12.16.2013 | Canada
Lori Gard

I am all for moms who don't take themselves too seriously -- who don't try too hard to be perfect and who accept themselves for who they are, warts and all. I am all for mothers who are 'people' first. Who love who they are and are proud to chase their dreams. Because sometimes we mamas just get lost in this parenting gig, and we wake up 25 years later and wonder who we are.

Helping Kids Cope During Breast Cancer Awareness Month

M. Maitland DeLand | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
M. Maitland DeLand

Caregivers do their best to guide parents as they struggle to talk with their children about cancer, but misunderstanding, denial, and apprehension often distort the communication process. Frustration and fear can build up as parents respond to their child's curiosity with hesitation. Parents must provide appropriate information about cancer to gain the confidence they need to do the best they can for their child.

Mission Impossible: Family Dinner at My House

Kate Hilton | Posted 11.27.2013 | Canada Living
Kate Hilton

My kids are the worst eaters. Really. Some people say this, and mean that their kids don't eat raw sushi, or whole wheat pasta, or offal. That's not what I mean. I mean that in my house, bacon is a food group. I mean that my kids don't eat pasta, period. I mean that they only accept pepperoni pizza from one delivery joint. It's serious.

Savvy Roundup: Hannah Montana, Creative Breakfasts and More

Minnow Hamilton | Posted 10.30.2013 | Canada Living
Minnow Hamilton

This week there was a lot that caught my attention -- from the rock/porn star formerly known as Hannah Montana, to creative breakfasts, the cost of raising a child and Max, the autistic child who was a victim of hate.

Why Parents Shouldn't Sweat the Small Stuff

Erica Berman | Posted 10.21.2013 | Canada Living
Erica Berman

Hey, parents: Don't sweat the small stuff. Even if you work full-time, bottle feed, don't buy organic food, and never threw your kids gigantic birthday bashes with elephant rides, as long as you are physically and emotionally present for your children -- and provide a safe, stable environment for them -- they'll be just fine.