Sex Education

Pulling Kids Out of New Sex-Ed Classes Will Only Breed Fear and Hate

Shahla Khan Salter | Posted 03.27.2015 | Canada Living
Shahla Khan Salter

Under the new curriculum, nay-saying parents have the option of pulling their kids out of sex-ed class. But should they? As a fellow parent of three children in the Ontario public education system, I say no. You can pull your kids out of sex-ed. And maybe one day you will also pull them out of classes that teach about climate change and evolution. Perhaps you don't trust the teacher who might be gay and so you find a way to pull your kids out of his or her class. You are teaching your kids to run from what they fear and instill in them hatred of others. Isn't it better to arm them with knowledge, teach them to respect differences and then trust them?

Let's Believe Women Who Report Sexual Assault

Lee Tunstall | Posted 03.06.2015 | Canada Living
Lee Tunstall

Survivors of sexual assault experience a great deal of shame and guilt, particularly young women, as they internalize the victim-blaming messages conveyed by the media. This often keeps them from seeking the support they so desperately need. This International Women's Day, we need to encourage more initiatives that are centred on girls and young women. We need to commit to eliminating barriers to accessing support for survivors of sexual violence. And we need to support projects that deconstruct and challenge rape culture. But most importantly, we must listen and believe young women when they speak.

Kids Should Know the Proper Names Of Their Genitals

Dr Dina Kulik | Posted 03.02.2015 | Canada Living
Dr Dina Kulik

Last week, Ontario released a new Health and Physical Education Curriculum for 2015. Much of the fear stems from the early introduction of sex education teaching, even in grade one. Are we that scared of our kids knowing the real word for their genitals?

Why I'm Not Afraid Of My Kid Learning About Penises And Vaginas

Rebecca Zamon | Posted 02.26.2015 | Canada Living
Rebecca Zamon

Whenever the topic of sex education and children comes up, there's an inevitable outcry from parents, politicians, and religious figures, who either think that (a) this should be taught at home, (b) the topics being taught are "inappropriate," or (c) teachers will do it wrong. All of which, frankly, don't speak to the realities of what's happening with kids right now. There's a reason people joke about kids playing "doctor" -- it's because kids are curious about their bodies, and the feelings they get from them, as much as adults are. They just don't have the knowledge to help them along the way. So hey, wouldn't it be great if they could get that someplace safe and educational, like say, school?

5 Myths And Facts About Ontario's Updated Sex Education Curriculum

Karyn Pickles | Posted 02.27.2015 | Canada Living
Karyn Pickles

Unfortunately, misconceptions and misinformation about this curriculum are continuing to make their way around the Internet, mostly because people seem bound and determined to willfully ignore the actual facts before forming an opinion. So today I'm going to address the most common myths about the new curriculum.

17 Things They'll Never Teach You In Sex Ed

The Huffington Post Canada | Arti Patel | Posted 11.17.2014 | Canada Living

You may have learned the basics of the birds and the bees, but chances are your grade school teachers probably left out a few important details. F...

What Mothers Need To Teach Their Sons About Sex

Sue Nador | Posted 01.02.2015 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

The Ghomeshi story is a very good reminder about the role mothers need to play in educating our sons early and often about sex and relationships. While both parents share responsibility for sex education, I think there are some areas in which moms have more street credibility.

Masturbation Is the Last Taboo

Trina Read | Posted 07.29.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

We really need to ask ourselves why masturbation is still the ugly cousin hiding in the sexual closet? That is, self-pleasuring is really great to do, just so long as we do not talk about it and no one finds out. Perhaps as people start to realize how many people are doing it, it will not be such a big deal to talk about.

Five Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Casual Sex

Simone Katerine | Posted 06.07.2014 | Canada Living
Simone Katerine

Although I hope sex ed class has changed a lot since I was a teen in the mid-90s, I'm not holding my breath. From learning how to be comfortable in my own skin to dealing with those messy things called "feelings," here are a few things I really wish someone had told me about casual sex.

Dear Daughter, Let's Talk About Porn - Love, Mom

Erika Lust | Posted 05.06.2014 | Canada Living
Erika Lust

This is the porn talk. By now you know what sex is (and what fun THAT talk was!), and in all likelihood you know more about porn than I imagine. Sex is a universal human experience, and a private one, which means I wanted you to hear about it from the people closest to you. But over the decades, porn has increasingly become part of the sexual experience, and I don't want to ignore it. Even of it's of no interest to you, you should hear me out, if only to indulge dear old mom.

Four Sexting Tips to Help You Avoid a #SexyPicFail

Carlen Costa | Posted 03.25.2014 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

The ability to digitally transmit information and, moreover sexually intimate content in particular, has lead to interesting results. This new age trend has hit our mobile units by storm, and let's be honest -- where there's digital technology, there's someone else trying to have sex with it. Because well, orgasms. Here are a few tips to making sure you have a successful #sexypic exchange.

Gay Straight Alliance and Marriage

Bill Haines | Posted 01.24.2014 | Canada Alberta
Bill Haines

Keeping all children safe and happy is our first priority. Let's teach the kids in public school to always show great love and respect to all people, no matter race, creed, colour or sexual orientation.

Whose Moral Compass To Follow When It Comes To Sex-Ed?

Bill Haines | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Alberta
Bill Haines

What Paula Simons doesn't appear to understand is that there is more chance of teaching kids, with enthusiasm, that sex is best saved for marriage so that as much as possible, children can be conceived in a loving home environment, from a Christian-based organization than from a Planned Parenthood-based organization.

What All Boys Should Be Told About Rehtaeh Parsons

Terri Coles | Posted 07.18.2013 | Canada Living
Terri Coles

In November 2011, when Rehtaeh Parsons was 15, she went with a friend to a party. Her mother said she was raped by four boys. I've seen a common refrain expressed online: "What are we teaching our kids?" It's a good question to ask when four young men allegedly felt that they had the right to do whatever they liked to a girl

Talk to Your Partner About Sex...and Reap the Benefits

Christine Hart | Posted 03.16.2013 | Canada Living
Christine Hart

For years, I have been perplexed by how rarely we discuss sex with our partners. I recognize these conversations are not easy for many people. When egos are exposed, you need an even blend of vulnerability and humour but most importantly love and respect for each other.

Is It Okay To Watch Adult Material In Public?

CP | Nick Patch, The Canadian Press | Posted 02.04.2013 | Canada Living

TORONTO - There was nothing comfortable about Tanis Miller's recent flight home to Edmonton, crammed as she was into a middle seat in economy, grappli...

Let's Talk About Sex, Muslims

Junaid Jahangir | Posted 12.02.2012 | Canada Living
Junaid Jahangir

Some conservative Muslim leaders, like their Christian counterparts, are disseminating a letter expressing the right of parents to withdraw their children from course content that conflicts with their understanding of faith. The letter expresses concerns about introducing children to sex-education and the realities of queer families.

Not a Biological Parent? How to Tell Your Child

Erica Berman | Posted 11.30.2012 | Canada Living
Erica Berman

As an infertility counsellor, I see a lot of clients who are using third-party family building strategies. This includes using sperm or egg donation and/or a gestational carrier. One of the many concerns these individuals have about family building using these methods is what they will tell their child.

What Sex Sells to Women?

Erika Lust | Posted 11.27.2012 | Canada Living
Erika Lust

I don't believe any single person can say what women want, but I can say with certainty that women do want. And the sooner society, media and business realize that this is the case, that men aren't the only sexual beings, the sooner we'll have greater variety to choose from and representations that reflect us.

Jade Eggs And The Dave Matthews Band: Inside A Vaginal Weightlifting Class

Emelia Symington Fedy | Posted 11.04.2012 | Canada British Columbia
Emelia Symington Fedy

I go up to the 20th floor and she lets me into a tiny studio apartment crammed with women sitting on cushions on the floor. The room is (in my small town opinion) gauche. A white fake fur rug, red satin pillows, gold cord wrapped around the sheer drapes. None of the 12 middle-aged women look like they want to be there. The instructor begins, "Vaginal weightlifting dates back thousands of years to the emperor's concubines in China. They would teach the emperor how to pleasure his many women, how to give and receive multiple orgasms and how not to come."

The Kind of Porn You SHOULD be Watching

Erika Lust | Posted 08.19.2012 | Canada Living
Erika Lust

Porn is out there, it's accessible, and it's here to stay. Sex and porn are so inextricably linked that it's as impossible to imagine the world without the one as it is without the other. The problem with most porn is that it reflects a weird world of hairlessness, bleaching athleticism and diminutive speech. It's not real, and this can lead to some serious social problems for teens.

Is 7 Billion People Too Many?

David Suzuki | Posted 01.03.2012 | Canada
David Suzuki

Supporting more people on a finite planet is a serious challenge. But in a world where hunger and obesity are both epidemics, reproduction rates can't be the main problem. And when we look at issues that are often blamed on overpopulation, we see that overconsumption is a greater factor in environmental destruction.

The Other Reason Your Kids Don't Talk to You About Sex

Josey Vogels | Posted 12.13.2011 | Canada Living
Josey Vogels

I realize a lot of kids feel like parents are the last people they want to talk to when it comes to sex, but isn't that partly because parents are still so awkward and obviously embarrassed by it themselves?

"Where Do Babies Come From?" and More Awkward Conversations With Kids

Josey Vogels | Posted 12.05.2011 | Canada Living
Josey Vogels

"My youngest son wanted to know what the 'part' below his penis was," one mom tells me. "I explained to him that it was his testicles. He quickly replied he didn't like the look of it and could I take them off!"

Hudak's 'Homophobic' Flyer: Intolerant or Informative?

Ontario Election Debate Hub | Posted 12.03.2011 | Canada
Ontario Election Debate Hub

Jason Lietaer (PC): There will always be some kind of allegation of hate or intolerance thrown by the grits. This time, it's homophobia. And it's nonsense. McGuinty's making sure that parents don't have any say in what kids are taught at school about these topics. We stand on the side of parents.