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There is nothing magic about eating right, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, or managing stress. We all know that those are crucial elements of a health-promoting lifestyle. So why are so many of us seemingly unable to make them a reality? As some experts suggest, it may all be a matter of thinking styles, of getting into the right mindset.
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I want my seven-year-old to have friends -- at least one, maybe two. But at heart, I'm a realist. He has high-functioning autism. Socially speaking, the odds are stacked against him. Making friends is a concept as foreign and uncomfortable as the wooly sweater knitted by a well-meaning great aunt.
If you're a caring parent, of course you want the best for your children. You think about their future and want them to be happy, healthy and successful in life. You want them to have good relationships when they grow up; meaningful pastimes and success in whatever job or career they eventually choose. When it comes to their future work life, they'll need important guidance from you, their parents.
When I get an endorsement "Jeff Chatterton is great at event planning," I know it's the latter. It's just someone trying to curry favour. How do I know that? I hate event planning. I don't do it, because I suck at it, and I know that. Here at Checkmate Public Affairs, if I need to stage an event, I have other people that I know will do a better job than I do the work. I've had one person, who I met at a speech I gave in Iowa, endorse me upwards of 20 times. Another former colleague is running for political office, and I've probably received a dozen endorsements from him. All it does is clog my inbox.
We all want to help, but when do we have time amongst our busy lives of work and home? I never want to feel like a jerk and say -- "Sorry man, I am too busy to listen to your life's passion for 5 minutes." That is the thing, every time I had to turn someone down I felt like a jerk... but not anymore baby!
Everybody deserves to have friends, a person or people who love and care about them. For a special needs child, this can be the biggest challenge of all.
When it comes to influencing people, offer good food and you'll be surprised just how persuasive you can be. When my 11-year-old is feeling a little insecure about his best friend status, he quickly offers up a playdate complete with road hockey and cookies, which he is certain will set him back on track.