Imagine choosing your path according to your strengths and passion whether you are a man or a woman, whether it's profitable or not. Imagine if you could explore your talents in an early age and respond to your calling as soon as you start working. If you have a job you don't like and want to find your passion, it's never too late.
I keep my house clean, my car clean and my desk clean. I know that whether they mean to or not, guests and coworkers will judge me and my abilities on what they see. I don't want my guests to be afraid to eat my food, or my coworkers to think that I can't do my job properly because of the way I have presented myself. I take pride in all aspects of my job.
I shake my head whenever I am exposed to these stereotypes, because they are contrary to my experiences as a tech employer. After careful consideration, I've determined that not only are the specific traits of millennial employees completely opposite to these characterizations, but that a company can really capitalize on them to achieve their business objectives.
I'm in great shape, emotionally and physically... I've learned some new tips for balancing all the things that I like to do, and as a result, I'm enjoying my practice in a way that I hadn't been, previously. Taking time away from work has renewed my love for the job and has made me a better therapist, as a result.
The word "selfish" has a bad rap. I get it. Being "concerned chiefly or only with yourself" seems like kind of an asshole move, but is that always the case? I don't think so. The "Screw you, suckers!" variety of selfishness deserves its critics, but what about the kind of selfishness that simply means you're putting yourself first?
I work from home on Fridays. It feels like such a treat. I don't set an alarm, so I wake up when my body wants to. I shlepp around in jogging pants and I spend the day writing or working on administrative stuff. I take a long lunch and I enjoy a manicure or a hot bath or a sunny stroll. I love that I can do that.
You're working your tail off, and yes, you are getting enquiries, invitations to speak at events and so on. But if you have that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something isn't right -- you don't feel valued or respected, or worse, you feel taken advantage of -- then it's time to set stronger boundaries in your business.
So, what makes you look bad? Trying to upstage your manager, particularly if you are a lot younger than them. New ideas are always welcome, but you should always be taking them to your manager first. I see many hardworking, successful millennials in the workforce, but there are some I wish I could just course-correct a little bit.
Some time ago I began to question this whole idea of work-life balance. I asked why do we frame the debate as if work and life are not one and the same? Do we not think work is part of the continuum that makes up our life? For me, anyway, and I suspect many others, work is an essential part of life and how we contribute to our society.
How many women do we know -- colleagues, friends, family members, ourselves -- who are pursuing a career while tending to other priorities, like raising a family? No doubt more than we can count on two hands. But how closely do we consider what it's like to walk in these women's shoes? We all stand to gain by talking to women about their aspirations and how they can best achieve them. What better day than International Women's Day to start the conversation.
Think of all of the crap that is going on with your physical health, especially any recurring issues. Only you and your doctor can determine what might be causing these symptoms. But if you have an unresolved chronic issue, or recurring health issues, or multiple health issues, it's possible that some of that is rooted in some neglected stress. Don't you think?
You can always be fired, downsized, or replaced. Your company could fold. The economy could tank. Depressing, I know. But, oddly enough, it's also empowering. Knowing there's no 100% guarantee frees you from pressure fall in line, fly under the radar, cave to the pressure, and suck it up, all for the sake of "security."
Whether you are a man or a woman, you have both masculine and feminine energy in you. Your job is to coax these energies out, embrace them and express yourself through them. Both men and women have been socialized to believe that it is all about proficiency, but as we've seen, the results of competent individuals, who are not considered likeable, can be viewed as subpar.
Why paint yourself with the either/or, black-or-white binary system of gender, when instead you could be a vibrant mosaic of masculine and feminine attributes? By letting go of stereotypes and celebrating individuals with a mix of traditional gender characteristics, you'll create more opportunities for yourself and others.