The duality of the roles we play in our lives, as professionals and as moms, wives and daughters is something that most women accept. What we've rejected thankfully, is that we notion that we need to adopt masculine archetypes at the office and feminine personas at home to be successful in each respective domain.
"I'd work out if I didn't have kids." Many of us have thought this, or possibly said it out loud... and actually believed it. While there is no denying that adding "raising a healthy and functioning human being" into your life schedule adds a bit of pressure, the fact is that exercising is one of the best things you can do because you have kids, not in spite of them.
Creating work environments that reflect the reality that both women and men are working and raising children is critical to not only women, but to the competitiveness of the economy. We are not maximizing the talent pool when 50 per cent of the population is absent from the vast majority of leadership roles that shape our economy.
Working from home can be rewarding in many ways, but it's important to see beyond the daydream before making the decision to change your career. Do your research and take the time to plan before you commit to a new lifestyle. Remember that there are always pros and cons to all sides of the working world -- do what works best for you and your family.
I can't spot a single one-dimensional woman for miles. They don't exist. This woman, who lives and breathes only for her kids, who is defined by the existence of her children, doesn't exist. The only women I see today are women who slip in and out of being a friend, a partner, a professional, a creative, the house CEO, all the while being the best mothers they can.
On Mother's Day, I look at my kids and think how blessed I am. Not just because I've had a chance to raise them, with all of the love, pride and fun that brings to my life. But because doing so has been a joyful experience. I've been able to nourish them, keep them warm, and send them off to school in the morning.
I don't want to read any more arguments about who has it harder, whose work is "real work," who is contributing more to society, or who is doing a better job ensuring her kids become stable, non-homicidal adults. I'm proposing a new form of Internet literature, where one group of moms singles out another group of moms for a job well done.
I don't judge my friends who work full-time (I'm completely proud and impressed by their success) and I don't judge my friends who don't work at all (I'm amazed by their patience and ability to put their careers on hold). The trouble is that moms feel the need to defend their position (myself included) whenever they feel it's being questioned, and sometimes it gets downright vicious. We've already established that there's no "perfect" solution that works for everyone, so it seems wrong that anyone has to compare themselves to anyone else (and feel guilty or insecure), but we're never going to get past it, it seems.