By the time I became pregnant for a second time in 2013, I felt at my best, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. I took hypnobirthing classes and had a picture perfect natural birth. My baby was sleeping through the night from day one and so was I. There's no way PPD would ever find me now. I was wrong.
What I didn't expect was the many bonuses and unexpected perks of having two little ones hanging out with me all the time. So to all you new and expecting parents out there, here are a few cool things that nobody warned me about.
Parenting is exhausting and mind-numbing at times. It is OK to say, "I will not miss those days."
We need a long-term, lasting solution that removes the social barriers that come with allergies, allowing kids to focus on being kids, live life free of fear and feel the comfort of home wherever they are. The good news? Researchers are working tirelessly toward finding a cure, and they're getting closer to realizing this goal.
Because connection, unity and support can really never be underestimated.
I won't tell you that Tegan threw a tantrum in Walgreens. That she peed on the floor at Target. That Sienna had three diaper blowouts, screamed in my ear for two hours for no apparent reason.
Is there a female equivalent to avuncular -- a comfortable word to describe the goodness of aunts? We could say auntlike or tantesque -- but somehow these words seem less generous than a word like avuncular, cloaked in corduroy, describing a good-hearted, patient, indulgent uncle.
A baby born prematurely isn't necessarily sick or born early because of some disease or drug addiction. Preterm labor can start for any number of reasons. In my case, I had an incompetent cervix that couldn't carry the weight of two growing babies at once.
Over 50 years of research has revealed there are four main parenting styles, ranging from authoritative to hands-off. So, why the big range? The way we parent relates to the values we want our kids to have -- the things we want to instill in them most.
What fascinates me as a clinician is the emergence of new, and dare I say, fun tools, to combat a traditionally difficult and solitary set of symptoms. While cognitive behavioural therapy and other forms of mental health interventions are important clinical considerations, so too is the potential role of games
The phrase "I don't know how you do it!" really grates on my nerves. I know that the speaker means well, but I equally realize that they aren't thinking through the ramifications of what they are saying. "I don't know how you do it" is truly one of the most insulting phrases attached to motherhood.
We named her Samantha and went predictably crazy over our new addition. Many, many, many people made fun of how over-the-top bananas we went. I'll never know why.
When my wife was killed my son had just turned two. For the three years that followed I often worried about how he would fit in at school. What would the other children say when they found out his mum had died? How would the teachers handle his loss? What would it be like to be the 'odd one out'?
On the eve of her fifth birthday, I kneel quietly next to her bed and watch the slow rise and fall of her chest, remembering all the times they had to resuscitate her and counting my blessings.
I think this kind of talk about babies and motherhood doesn't do new parents any favors.
My firm belief is that if my kids are to become financially savvy young adults, they must have diverse and varied experience with handling money as soon as they can understand what it represents. If this education is absent, there are some clear dangers in navigating life's money minefield.
In my work as a neonatologist, I've looked after many, many babies. I've seen families of all ages, cultures and circumstances. But I've never seen a mother who wanted to harm her growing baby. Yet too often I still see mothers who use alcohol during pregnancy despite extensive educational campaigns about its harmful effects on the growing fetus.
Books often act as our friends, companions and teachers. They can entertain, educate and impart life lessons. Stories can also be introduced to students from a very young age and many of these stories carry meaning for years to come.
As a competitive athlete you sign up for scrutiny and judgment. But, even then, you need to be thick skinned because you're out there doing your best, succeeding or failing for everyone to see. Kids who get bullied don't sign up to be judged.