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The New Bigotry Against Babies

Posted: 12/09/11 09:16 AM ET

They cry, they make messes and let's face it: they're a downright nuisance. That's the message that one can surmise from the recent institution of a "baby tax" at a London-area restaurant.

Shock was likely the least of one mother's emotions when she received her bill following an afternoon out at a local restaurant with her six-week-old son in tow. Although the child didn't eat at the establishment, Natasha Young, the baby's mother, was provided with a check that included an extra £3 (around $5) charge.

When Young questioned the server about the fee, she was advised that the money was added because the baby was taking up space in the 22,000 sq. ft. restaurant. Babies make eateries awfully crowded, you see. Cosmo Restaurant, the eatery in question, continues to stand by its policy, citing a number of reasons for its position.

"We pride ourselves on making children and parents feel valued -- which is why we serve thousands of families every single week. The Minimum Charge Policy is intended for toddlers who eat but not as much as a child. It was and never will be intended as a charge for Prams or for babies..." the official response to this public relations nightmare states.

And yet despite the restaurant's contention that the charge is for "toddlers," it is clear that the rule is clearly extended to those younger than two. Another mother who dined at Cosmo was charged the same fee after eating at the establishment with her six-month-old daughter and her partner. Although the baby was either sitting on one of her parents' laps, the restaurant felt it was within its right to charge the family the "baby tax" upon leaving.

Clearly this restaurant's policy is not one that was made in isolation, for as many of these instances that we hear about, we can rest assured that there are many more that remain under the radar. Not every scorned parent will turn to the media, their friends or to others in pursuit of justice. Many will slink out of the offending establishment in embarrassment, tails between their legs and diaper bags tightly sealed, knowing that they have committed the grave offence of dining out with a small child. Others will suffer in silence, enduring years of monotony, leftovers and takeout, as eating out with the kids is clearly not in the picture.

Discrimination against children, and by extension their parents, is one of the last forms of acceptable bigotry that remains in these modern times. Surprisingly, the trend towards a generally more adult-focused lifestyle seems to be the result of a backlash against the family-friendly, kiddie-centric philosophy that has dominated the cultural landscape in recent years. Many adults want to mosey up to the bar and not have to trip over a stuffed animal in order to get there. Understood. Kids can be difficult at times and definitely tiring. They can also be loud and unreasonable and in some instances, completely intolerable. Funnily, so can many adults. Can't we all name a person or two that boasts all of the preceding attributes -- and more? And yet they're allowed to dine at most establishments with impunity.

What I'm trying to say is that it's not acceptable to paint any one group with a broad brush in an effort to explain their expected or perceived behaviours. It is also not acceptable to unfairly penalize (in this instance monetarily) parents for the mere fact that they are, indeed parents. Discrimination and bigotry is ugly no matter how you slice it. Let's not make it even uglier by having children as the unwitting recipients of poor treatment.

 

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06:54 PM on 12/11/2011
Does the restaurant also charge $5 for people who come in and share a meal? Or aren't hungry but want to visit with their family/friends who are dining?

I think Cosmos is certainly setting itself up to be boycotted by an awful lot of families, and if they indeed "serve thousands of families every single week" as the article states, they may be hurting their bottom line over a silly $5 charge.
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06:42 PM on 12/11/2011
While I agree that parents should use common sense when selecting a restaurant and what time they go to said restaurant, and a hostess can use common sense at a nicer establishment and not sit the couple trying to have a romantic dinner next to the people who brought their toddler, it is not right to ban children or tax them because THEY MIGHT BE a little annoying. By that logic, you shouldn't have tables larger then 8 (loud and annoying), birthday parties (who else wants to listen to you sing happy birthday), old people (slow eaters and poor tippers), people in wheelchairs, walkers, crutches (take up to much room), mentally disabled (some might be loud), people who drink too much (obnoxious), anyone on a cellphone (no one wants to hear your conversation)... Etc.
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07:08 PM on 12/10/2011
You didn't say whether the restaurant in the anecdote you shared was a "white tablecloth" kind of place or if it was more casual. But here's my take--if Mom and Dad are not going to get a babysitter when they wish to dine at an expensive restaurant, I think it's well within the purview of the establishment to make the environment relaxing for the diners who chose not to bring their kids. Since they can't outright refuse you and your kid, they have done the next best thing which is to discourage you from doing so the next time.

There are plenty of family-friendly restaurants out there in which a bit of raucousness on the part of the toddler set is acceptable. Take your kids there. It's the considerate thing to do.
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06:45 PM on 12/11/2011
The article did say however that they prided themselves on serving families, and they served thousands of families every week. I think it is safe to assume it was a family friendly restaurant.
11:50 PM on 12/09/2011
I think if you are going to allow children and babies into an establishment, then it is ridiculous to then add some sort of tax for them being there. Yes, I am one of those evil people who think that it is nice to have places to go where people are discouraged from bringing young children because not everyone likes kids. But if you are going to brand your establishment as "family friendly", don't charge parents extra for bringing children.
07:59 PM on 12/09/2011
I'm just curious, if you're decrying the infringement of babies' (and also therefore parents') rights, do you think it's ok that dogs (and also therefore their owners) are banned from certain locations? Same deal. I don't like not being able to take my dogs everywhere but I acknowledge that some people don't love them as I do. Shame some parents can't see that when it comes to their children.
06:10 PM on 12/09/2011
Sorry, this issue is coming to the forefront because (like smokers 20 years ago ) they fail to consider the people around them until the MAJORITY get sick of it and demand change. Too many parents are taking kids to nicer restaurants and not controlling them. Accept it --- that a small child should not be forced to endure 1-2 hours in a place that is not in the least interesting to them, it is NOT their fault but the inconsiderate parents who do not appreciate age appropriateness. Yes I do have 2 kids and we take them to restaurants that they like---- and get a baby sitter when we want a nicer meal . Some parents seem to feel that their children should go everywhere with them. Another place that should be treated with respect is a wedding unless the bride "really" agrees with children present.
02:50 PM on 12/09/2011
As a new-ish father of a 1 year old I can totally understand some establishments not allowing children. My wife and I have taken him to establishments that welcome children, but even then if he freaks out one of us will remove him from the restaurant until he calms down. I don't understand parents who, while dining out just ignore their screaming child, it seems rude to those around them as well as harsh to the poor screaming kid. If more parents acted responsibly in public situations then establishment would feel less inclined to broadly discriminate against children.
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04:32 PM on 12/09/2011
It's definitely the parents' responsibility to be cognizant of others, on behalf of their children. Accordingly, if their baby or child is having a difficult time, it's best to remove them from the situation. But what if the child is not behaving badly or causing any distraction? Is it fair for the family to be "taxed" or discouraged anyway? Painting all kids and by extension their parents as potential trouble-makers before they've even done anything and/or charging a "tax" for the privilege of dining in a particular establishment just seems wrong no matter how you look at it.
06:17 PM on 12/09/2011
Sorry if you have a child that is "difficult" get a baby sitter. It is not normal to take a screaming unruly child into am inapproprate situation, This makes the parents hopefully feel worst although some seem to feel that if they do nothing the kid will eventually quet down !!!!!!!! Even worst some parents will threaten their kids with the idea that their server will do something really bad to them .The server is not the parent !!!!!
01:46 PM on 12/09/2011
Getting in before the firestorm brigade of huffy childfree comments. If you've ever had a child, you don't even really notice crying babies anymore. My heart's always with the frazzled parents, attempting some normalcy by eating out, trying to shush their colicky ones lest they bother someone else.

Babies are people too. As are the mentally ill, disabled and other 'inconvenient' people who might bother you by taking up space.
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04:34 PM on 12/09/2011
I agree, Cacadienne. It's a very slippery slope when we start to determine that people are "inconvenient" and not worth the space. Not all families that walk into a restaurant with a young child or baby in tow will cause a disruption.
11:39 AM on 12/09/2011
I will gladly patronize establishments that attempt to screen out babies and under 2 year olds.
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04:37 PM on 12/09/2011
It's a shame that babies and under-two-year-old children would be considered candidates to be "screened out."
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07:12 PM on 12/10/2011
Come on. A little less self-centeredness, would be appropriate here. I'm the mother of two teenagers and when they were toddlers I would never dream of bringing them to a nice restaurant. Get a sitter. Or take them to a place that caters to families. Seriously. It's called common courtesy.
06:20 PM on 12/09/2011
The only thing I find wrong with charging a fee for a kid is that it is often too low. Have you noticed the mess around a small child's eating area.