Maybe your parents didn't stay together, or most of your friends are opting to skip the vows and sign an apartment lease instead, or maybe you've watched Celeste and Jesse Forever a few too many times. Whatever it is, it would seem that donning a white dress and getting confetti-bombed isn't as full a promise as it used to be.
Yes, divorce happens, and we live in an age where sex doesn't necessarily have to wait until after you've walked down the aisle. We all have the freedom to skip the ceremony, share some living space, and leave it at that -- but what if that doesn't cut it for you? What if you want the ring, the sacred words, the whole shebang? What if you need to stand in a church, on a beach, in front of a priest or a justice of the peace, and actually marry the person you love? Well, that's OK too, and here's why:
Many of us grew up with the idea of fairy tale love, and finding "The One." While some may disregard this idea and think the whole soulmate thing is a crock, there are also people who truly trust that there is in fact, someone completely perfect for them to spend the rest of their life with. The simple act of proclaiming your undying love, trust, and giving your hand in front of your friends and family, or just one other, and in essence saying, "I am forever yours and you are forever mine," is one of the most romantic things you can do together.
It's For You
If religion is big part of your life, then the act of marriage is pretty much a given, but you don't have to be especially religious to want to be a bride. You could have just grown up believing in everything matrimony stands for, and hoping to find someone who shares your point of view. In any case, if getting married feels like something that needs to happen for you, then you need to listen to that.
Monogamy, the informal version of saying, "I Do," where you commit to sticking it out with just one other person, has been estimated to have been around for thousands of years. It's a legacy, in a way, to go out and find the one who makes you the happiest and strongest you can be, and decide to live out the rest of your days together, no matter what. Hey, even penguins do it.
It's Your Choice
Divorce and infidelity are just two of the risks you take when you say those two little words. People may warn you that you're too young, that you don't know each other well enough or that you should learn from their mistakes. No matter what others tell you, in the end, it's a decision that involves only two people. If getting married feels right, if you've realistically weighed the pros and cons, have assessed all of the risks, and still feel in your heart that taking the plunge is something you're ready for and 100 per cent sure about, then that's all that really matters.
This article was written by Melissa Hayes for 29Secrets.com.
Of all respondents surveyed, 61 percent said a woman should take her husband's last name after marriage.<br>
Of Republicans surveyed, 81 percent said a woman should take her husband's last name after marriage.<br> Of Democrats surveyed, 60 percent agreed.<br> Fifty-one percent of independents surveyed agreed.
Among Caucasians, 60 percent said a woman should take her husband's last name; 58 percent of Hispanics agreed; and of African Americans surveyed, 71 percent agreed.
Of all respondents surveyed, less than half said a man should be <em>allowed</em> to take his wife's last name after marriage. Thirty-four percent said he <em>should not</em> be allowed, with 18 percent undecided
Fifty-three percent of Republicans said that a man <em>should not be allowed</em> to take his wife's last name after marriage; just 30 percent said a man should be allowed. Of Democrats surveyed, 56 percent said a man should be allowed to take his wife's last name.
Thirty-nine percent of respondents said hyphenation is "a good way [for couples] to show they respect each other", while 38 percent said hyphenation is "a silly piece of political correctness."
By a 46 percent to 30 percent margin, women said hyphenation is "a good way [for couples] to show they respect each other. Conversely, a 47 percent to 32 percent margin of men said hyphenation is a "silly piece of political correctness."
Of Democrats surveyed, 53 percent said hyphenation is a good way to show respect. Of Republicans surveyed, 58 percent said it's a silly piece of political correctness (just 22 percent said it's a good way to show respect).
Of Caucasians surveyed, 34 percent said hyphenation is a good way to show respect, while 41 percent said it's a silly piece of political correctness.<br> Of African Americans surveyed, 60 percent said it's a good way to show respect, while just 21 percent said it's a silly piece of political correctness.
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