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40 Things I've Learned at 40

09/13/2013 12:17 EDT | Updated 11/13/2013 05:12 EST

I recently turned forty. Someone asked me what random things I've learned over the past four decades. Well, here's 40 things I have to say about 40 years.

1. Marry the person you want to sit for hours with on the sofa while you're reading.

2. At 20, you get drunk and laugh. At 30, you get drunk and you cry. At 40, you have a drink and listen to Sinatra.

3. I'd be lying if I said I still don't hold the occasional grudge.

4. Anger isn't nearly as impressive as patience. Nor is it as effective.

5. My parents were wrong a lot, but at least they were always on the same page.

6. Everyone who teased me for what I wanted to be when I grew up now emails me and tells me they're impressed I actually did it.

7. Those people who teased you when you were 10 will be your biggest cheerleaders when you are 40.

8. People think it is difficult to be an entertainer. It's more difficult to be married to one.

9. All the times I begged and pleaded and cried and beat my fists never got my way. But it did make a lot of my girlfriends lose respect for me.

10. People told me that, as I got older, I'd become less liberal. Hasn't happened yet. Stay tuned.

11. People care way too much about appearing smarter than they are. You'll enjoy life more if you let people see you as silly. And you'll somehow wind up looking smarter anyway.

12. My friends say I have bad taste in music, but I bet I have more fun singing in the shower than they do.

13. I don't care what you think, "Call Me Maybe" is a great song.

14. At 20, you long to be rich and famous. At 30, you long to be famous and make good money. At 40, you long for a decent living and selective anonymity.

15. Of all the drugs I ever tried, sugar is the most addictive.

16. It's a good thing my brothers both went into computers and give me free advice when I need it. Otherwise, I'd probably have written this in crayon.

17. I rarely think about ex-girlfriends, but I constantly miss every dog I ever had.

18. We really make too big a deal over adult language.

19. That said, I hope I don't have those kids who say "F*&# this" in front of my in-laws.

20. I probably wouldn't have liked the 20 year-old me.

21. The people with the most talent always seem to work for the people with the least.

22. The hardest part of being a talk radio host isn't the talking part. It's the listening part.

23. Over the years, my belief in religion has waned, but I still find myself talking to God a lot.

24. Just the right song or TV commercial can make me cry. That and a very old couple holding hands.

25. At 20, people ask you to name your heroes and you have a huge list of celebrities and historical figures. At 30, the list becomes shorter. At 40, you just say "my parents".

26. Don't ever tell a teenager that a break-up doesn't matter because he is just a kid. Heartbreak feels ten times worse when you're 15 than any other time in your life.

27. People rarely notice when you're having a bad hair day. You look the same as you did yesterday to almost everyone at the office.

28. Most tie knots aren't important. Just learn to tie a four-in-hand and you'll be fine. Maybe a windsor.

29. If I had become rich and famous like I wanted when I was 20, I'd probably be dead now.

30. Money doesn't give you character. Failure does.

31. People should probably remember Ebeneezer Scrooge was the bad guy in that story, and act less like him the other eleven months before December.

32. My father busted his butt for decades, raised a family, paid mortgages, did yard work, fixed things, taught us math, owned businesses, and spent every day being a husband/father/role model. I babble on the radio to strangers. Somehow, we're both impressed with one another.

33. My wife sometimes looks like her father, and that scares the hell out of me.

34. People say we don't appreciate teachers and firefighters enough. That's true, but we really don't appreciate garbage collectors, either.

35. Call me a momma's boy and I swear to God my mother will beat the hell out of you.

36. My wife is gorgeous when she dresses to the nines and is all dolled up. But, to me, she's always the most beautiful when she's wearing flannel pajamas and playing Scrabble.

37. As I get older, I find myself being more honest with people and caring a lot less about whether or not people like me.

38. That's a lie.

39. It's an amazing feeling when you realize that you've become friends with your parents.

40. I don't feel old.