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Six Ways to Deal With Your Picky Eater

Posted: 01/21/2013 5:38 pm


Most parents worry about their child's nutritional intake at one point or another, especially when they are dealing with a picky eater. I see this almost daily in my practice -- the conundrum of picky eating. Know that you are not alone -- almost every child a will go through a picky eating phase, if not many. As frustrating and worrisome as it is, it's normal. And nine times out of 10, your child is eating a more well-balanced diet throughout the week than you think. So take a deep breath, and read on for some tips on how to deal with your little picky eater...

1. Respect your child's appetite fluctuations:

Just like your appetite changes from day to day and meal to meal, so does your little one's. If you notice that your child is cueing that he or she is full or not interested any more, even after a few bites, don't force-feed and pressure him or her to keep going. Your toddler is respecting his or her hunger and fullness cues and so should you. Children are naturally very intuitive eaters, so as frustrating as it is to watch your gourmet meal go to waste, calmly remove it, stick it in a Tupperware container and save it for later.

2. Establish a routine:

Establish a routine so that meal and snack timing is fairly consistent from day to day. This way your toddler will begin to know and expect when meal and snack times are. It will allow him or her to be hungry at meals (but not starving) and also know that if he or she doesn't finish the meal, there will be another chance to eat in a few hours. Because small children have small stomachs, they should ideally be offered three meals and two or three snacks per day so that they are eating every few hours. Don't let eating be a free-for-all -- it will exhaust you and your toddler will start to learn that he is in charge (YOU should be in charge of timing). As Ellyn Satter, RD (Guru in feeding children) teaches, you as the parent are in charge of what, where and when your toddler or small child eats and the toddler is in charge of whether and how much he or she eats. I know it would be so much easier if we were in charge of everything, but unfortunately, we're not. Also, offer water in between meals and milk at or just after meals (otherwise they may fill up on milk right before their meal and not have much of an appetite).


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  • Italy

    <strong>Kids Will Like</strong>: Pizza and pasta of all varieties, of course. <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Polenta ( cooked cornmeal, like grits) plain, buttered or topped with meat sauce; Risotto; fritatta (like quiche); gnocchi (potato pasta)

  • Japan

    <strong>Kids Will Like</strong>: All types of noodles (ramen, udon, soba) plain or in soup; tonkatsu (breaded, fried pork cutlet); tempura (batter fried meats, fish or veggies); yakitori (grilled chicken) <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Onigiri ( stuffed, rolled rice balls); gyoza dumplings; cooked maki sushi

  • UK And Ireland

    <strong>What They'll Like</strong>: Fish and chips; pot roast; tea sandwiches; shepherd's pie <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Cornish pasty (hand pie stuffed with a meat filling); Welsh rarebit (melted cheese served over toast); sausage rolls

  • Sweden

    <strong>What They'll Like</strong>: Köttbullar (meatballs); Raggmunk (potato pancakes); Beef Stroganoff <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Jansson's temptation (potato casserole); Kroppkakor (pork-filled potato dumplings); Sausage Stroganoff, Ärtsoppa (traditional pea soup)

  • Mexico

    <strong>What They'll Like</strong>: Tacos, quesadillas and enchiladas -- just remember they aren't exactly the same as they are here. <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Chilaquiles (smothered tortilla chips); chalupas (corn flour coups with various fillings); flautas (fried, rolled tacos); molletes (sliced bread topped with refried beans and cheese); sopes (thick corn tortilla topped with meat and veggies)

  • Belgium

    <strong>What They'll Like</strong>: Frites (French fries); waffles (there are many kinds -- Brussels waffle, Liège waffle, stroopwafel); Carbonade (beef stew) If They Like That, Try: Stoemp (mashed potatoes with vegetables); Waterzooi (fish or chicken stew); Garnaalkroketten (shrimp-stuffed potato croquettes); Flamiche aux Poireaux (quiche-like tart)

  • France

    <strong>Kids Will Like</strong>: Omelettes (usually served at lunch or dinner); crepes; jambon-beurre (ham and butter sandwiches, sometimes with cheese); poulet roti (roasted chicken); pasta (widely available at cafes); steak frites (steak and fries); Bœuf bourguignon (beef stew) <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Croque Monsieur (grilled ham and cheese sandwich); quiche; flammekueche (Alsatian "pizza" with cheese, onion and bacon); coq au vin (stewed rooster); socca (chickpea flour pancake)

  • Germany

    <strong>What They'll Like</strong>: Wieners (hot dogs); Buletten (meatballs); Knödel (potato dumplings); Kartoffelpuffer (potato pancakes); Sauerbraten (pot roast); Spätzle (noodles) <strong>If They Like That, Try</strong>: Currywurst (hot dogs topped with spiced ketchup); Kartoffelsalat (warm potato salad); Rouladen (beef wrapped around bacon, onions, mustard and pickles); Schweinshaxe (roasted ham hock)

  • Argentina

    What They'll Like: Pizza (we hear it's pretty darn good here); steak (and other grilled meats); Milanesas (breaded, fried meats); sorrentinos (ham and cheese ravioli) If They Like That, Try: Empanadas (hand pies with meat, vegetable or sweet fillings); tartas (like quiche); choripan (sausage sandwich)

  • Turkey

    What They'll Like: Köfte (meatballs); Şiş kebab (chunks of meat grilled on a skewer); Sade pilav (simple rice pilaf) If They Like That, Try: Döner kebab (shaved meat in pita or wrap); Lahmacun (pizza-like dough topped with ground meat); Manti (meat dumplings); Börek (cheese- or meat-filled phyllo pastry)

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3. Let your child explore new foods, pressure-free:

Part of becoming comfortable with a particular food is exploring it. When you see your child playing with, mushing up, or smearing food all over his or her highchair, consider it a way of your toddler learning more about the food and becoming comfortable enough with it to put it in his or her mouth. My son often tries a new food but then spits it out, only to put it back in his mouth if it is up to his satisfaction. Lovely, I know. It's his way of feeling safe with it though, so we are trying to just go with it. Sometimes it ends up on the floor, in his hair, or smeared on his highchair, but that's all part of it I guess! You don't want to pressure your child into eating something that he or she is not yet totally comfortable with--the more you pressure, the more she will be turned off (children are smarter than we think!). Allow a warming-up period. Let your baby, toddler, or child try new foods without pressure.

4. Don't use food as a reward or punishment:

Once you start rewarding your child with certain foods, or praising your child for eating other foods, you are starting to teach your toddler to associate certain foods as "good" and certain as "bad." If you praise your children for eating broccoli, they is going to start to wonder what the big deal is...and then if you reward them with a cookie (after they've finished their broccoli), they will soon come to learn that cookies are the sought after "yummy" food and broccoli is "yucky."

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5. Don't stop serving new or rejected foods:

It may take up to 20 tries before your toddler accepts a new food. I know that it's tempting to skip right to the accepted and safe food at meal times -- trust me -- but he is not going to learn or have the opportunity to become comfortable with a food unless it's introduced many times in a pressure-free environment. It's frustrating and may feel like a waste, but it's key to molding a balanced healthy eater. Try serving new or previously rejected foods with accepted, safe foods -- your child may warm up to them quicker this way. And a quick note on vegetables: if your child refuses to eat vegetables (which is common), know that she is likely receiving similar nutrients from fruit (phewf!). That being said, continue to offer a variety of veggies in different shapes, textures, and colours.

6. Model healthy eating:

It's important that your child sees that you enjoy a variety of foods every day so that he or she will start to learn that this is normal. Family meals are key -- at least one a day. Try not to hover over your children while they're eating. Imagine someone doing that to you! Try instead to include them in the family conversation and treat them the same as everyone else (even though every part of you wants to hover over them and shove food in their mouth).

If you're really concerned about your toddler's or preschooler's picky eating habits and nutritional intake, keep a one-week food dairy. Most toddlers will not let themselves go hungry. If they fall short on calories one day, they will likely make up for it the next day. Throughout the course of a day, you may worry that your toddler is only eating one or two foods. But over the course of a week, they are likely eating a more balanced diet than you thought. The point is, it would be unusual if your toddler wasn't a picky eater to some extent. Try not to obsess or stress about it (trust me, I know it's hard). Most picky toddlers grow to accept and eat a variety of foods. If you're concerned about your toddlers growth or development, consult your doctor or a dietician to explore further.

Written By: Sarah Remmer, Yummy Mummy Club

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