After one California mom suffered a miscarriage at seven weeks pregnant, she decided to get a tattoo in honour of the baby she lost.
Joan Bremer and her husband were thrilled when they discovered they were expecting their first child last month. Unfortunately, the 31-year-old mom-to-be began experiencing cramps and bleeding, and miscarried her first baby.
“It took about three days to recover, and during that time I thought of getting a tattoo to mark this life experience,” Bremer told Today.com. “For me, all the tattoos I have signify something, and even though this was a painful time, I still wanted to be able to remember it in some way.”
On Imgur, Bremer shared a photo of her beautiful miscarriage tattoo. The simple design is of a pregnant mother and her baby drawn in one continuous line, both with their own red heart.
“I wanted to get a tattoo to kind of remember and be able to heal and move on,” she told SELF. “It would be my tribute to this baby that we wanted but unfortunately didn’t last.”
The 31-year-old also revealed that she plans to add a rainbow to the tattoo if her next pregnancy is successful. “Since ‘rainbow babies’ are babies that are conceived after a loss, just like how something beautiful can come after a storm,” she told Today.com.
The mom also plans to add another heart if she suffers a second miscarriage.
On Imgur, many users gave their sympathies and even opened up about their own losses. “What an exquisitely beautiful tattoo,” one wrote. “I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sorry for all parents who go through this. My heart is with you.”
Another added: “My wife endured that. Then a few months later she was pregnant. We now own a tiny human. Things can get better.”
“I know there is a certain silence about miscarriages and pregnancy losses, but I am not ashamed that this happened to me.”
Other users called attention to the fact that miscarriages are more common than people think. “It's time to end the stigma surrounding them and talk more about it when we talk about reproduction,” one said.
In getting her tattoo, this is exactly what Bremer had hoped would happen. “Losing a baby, even if it's early in pregnancy, is just so difficult,” she said. “I know there is a certain silence about miscarriages and pregnancy losses, but I am not ashamed that this happened to me. That was one of my motivations for getting the tattoo in the first place — I really think it's healing to be able to talk about it.”
According to BabyCentre Canada, the chances of having a miscarriage in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy are one in five. Late miscarriages, until approximately 24 weeks of pregnancy, occur in about one in 100 pregnancies.
It’s not uncommon for parents to get tattoos in honour of their kids, however, this is the first miscarriage tattoo we’ve seen that has gone viral.
On social media, other parents have also shared their ink in honour of the babies they've lost.
So in love with my tattoo 💕 this has got to be one of my personal tattoos that I've ever got other than my Stay Strong tattoo. I miss and love you so much Brody Matthew Pearson 💕 even though your not with me even tho I wish you was, I am still a mum 👶🏻💕 #tattoo #miscarriagetattoo #miscarriagesurvivor #iloveyou #love #lostbaby #child #fifthtattoo #brody #matthew #pearson
A number of celebrities, such as David Beckham and Julia Roberts, have also paid tribute to their children by getting tattoos. However, no celebrity has openly revealed getting a miscarriage tattoo.
Flip through the slideshow below to see other celebs who have opened up about pregnancy loss:
Before Beyoncé had her daughter Blue Ivy, she experienced a miscarriage. The “Single Ladies” singer didn’t discuss her loss until two years after the fact, admitting it was “the saddest thing I've ever been through.” In her 2013 HBO documentary, the Grammy winner said: “About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time and I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life. I picked out names, I envisioned what my child would look like... I was feeling very maternal. I flew back to New York to get my check up — and no heartbeat. Literally the week before I went to the doctor, everything was fine, but there was no heartbeat. I went into the studio and wrote the saddest song I've ever written in my life. It was the best form of therapy for me.” Beyoncé and Jay-Z now have a daughter named Blue, who is 3 years old.
Before Courteney Cox had her daughter Coco with ex-husband David Arquette, she had multiple miscarriages. The “Friends” star previously told People, “I get pregnant pretty easily, but I have a hard time keeping them.” Cox’s daughter Coco is now 11 years old.
In August 2015, Susan Sarandon’s daughter Eva Amurri Martino revealed she suffered a miscarriage while pregnant with her second child. She was nine weeks pregnant at the time. “I am sharing in the hopes that we can be a light for people going through similar circumstances, and to remind myself and others that there is no shame in voicing our heartbreaks and allowing others to comfort us,” she wrote on her blog. The 30-year-old actress and her husband Kyle Martino are parents to a 1-year-old daughter named Marlowe.
In the past, the Canadian singer has been incredibly vocal about her struggles to conceive. Before she became pregnant with her twins Eddy and Nelson via IVF, Dion suffered a miscarriage. “I never gave up,” she said. “But I can tell you that it was physically and emotionally exhausting.” Dion’s twins are now 4 years old and her eldest son René-Charles is 14. The 47-year-old had her three kids with husband René Angélil.
In July, Mark Zuckerberg used his baby announcement to share an important message about miscarriage. In a Facebook post, the site founder revealed that his wife Priscilla Chan had suffered three miscarriages. “It's a lonely experience,” the 31-year-old wrote. “Most people don't discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you – as if you're defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own. “In today's open and connected world, discussing these issues doesn't distance us; it brings us together. It creates understanding and tolerance, and it gives us hope.” Zuckerberg and his wife are currently expecting a baby girl. This will be their first child together.
In March 2014, Lindsay Lohan revealed she had a miscarriage while filming her OWN docuseries. “I cried so many times watching [the show],” the actress said. “If I know I’m not capable of being on, that’s why I would say I couldn’t film today. No one knows this... I had a miscarriage for those two weeks that I took off.” “I couldn’t move. I was sick,” she continued. “And mentally that messes with you.”
Lily Allen has suffered two miscarriages, but her second hit her the hardest. In November 2010, the singer was six months pregnant when she lost her baby with husband Sam Cooper. Describing the experience, she said: “It was horrendous and something I would not wish on my worst enemy.” Reflecting on what she learned from the experience, she said, “What I took home from that experience was… I was very fortunate in the sense that I have a loving partner to go home to and share that experience with.” Allen and Cooper now have two daughters: Ethel Mary, 4, and Marnie Rose, 2.
Brooke Shields had a miscarriage before she gave birth to her daughters Rowan and Grier. Speaking about her experience, she said, “We were crushed. Up till then, I thought simply because it was time and I wanted to have a baby, it would work.” The actress had both daughters with husband Chris Henchy. Rowan is now 12 and Grier is 9.
Hugh Jackman and his wife Deborra-Lee Furness had a long struggle with infertility. The couple underwent a number of IVF treatments only to have them end in miscarriage. “It is a difficult time,” the “X-Men” star said. “The miscarriage thing — apparently it happens to one in three pregnancies — but it’s very, very rarely talked about. It’s almost secretive. But it’s a good thing to talk about. It’s more common and it’s tough, there’s a grieving process you have to go through.” Today the couple has two kids, Oscar, 15, and Ava, 10, who they adopted. In 2012, the actor revealed that adoption was always part of their plan. “To be clear, Deb and I always wanted to adopt,” he said.
Mariah Carey suffered a miscarriage before she famously had Dem Babies, Monroe and Moroccan, with her then-husband Nick Cannon. Opening up about her experience, she said: “It kind of shook us both and took us into a place that was really dark and difficult. When that happened… I wasn’t able to even talk to anybody about it. That was not easy.” The news of the miscarriage came just before Christmas in 2008. Looking back, Cannon said, “It was emotional for both of us and that’s when I saw the strength. [Mariah] handled it so well and then to get on the plane and have to spend Christmas with friends and family, it definitely brought us closer together. It strengthened our relationship so much… she handled it so well.” Twins Monroe and Moroccan are now 4 years old.
In 2013, Gwyneth Paltrow revealed she miscarried her third child, but did not indicate when this occurred. At the time, Paltrow and ex-husband Chris Martin were already parents to two kids: Apple and Moses. In an interview with Mail on Sunday’s You magazine, the actress said: “My children ask me to have a baby all the time. And you never know, I could squeeze one more in. I am missing my third. I’m thinking about it. “I had a really bad experience when I was pregnant with my third. It didn’t work out and I nearly died. So I am like, ‘Are we good here, or should we go back and try again?’”
Nicole Kidman had a miscarriage during her famous marriage to Tom Cruise in the 90s. Years later, the actress revealed, “From the minute Tom and I were married, I wanted to have babies. And we lost a baby early on, so that was really very traumatic. And that's when we would adopt Bella.” Kidman and Cruise went on to adopt two kids, Isabella and Connor, who are now young adults. The “Paddington” star also has two kids with husband Keith Urban: Sunday Rose, 7, and Faith, 4.
In November 2010, the Grammy winner revealed on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” that she had suffered a miscarriage before becoming pregnant with her daughter Willow. That’s why she held off on officially announcing her pregnancy. “I was just really nervous,” she said. “I have had a miscarriage before.” Pink had her daughter with husband Carey Hart in 2011. Willow is now 4 years old.
Emma Thompson suffered a miscarriage in 1997. Two years later, the actress welcomed her daughter Gaia with husband Greg Wise. Gaia was conceived through IVF. Although the couple wanted to have more children, subsequent IVF attempts failed. Regarding her experience, the “Saving Mr. Banks” star said: “There’s been an awful lot of grief to get through in not being able to get pregnant again, but there are thousands and thousands of women like me who can’t have children.” Besides 15-year-old Gaia, Thomspon and her husband also have a son, 28-year-old Tindyebwa Agaba, who they adopted in 2003.
Former “Cheers” star Kristie Alley only had one pregnancy and miscarried when she was 3 months along. In her 2005 book, the actress claimed her miscarriage was the reason behind her weight gain. “When the baby was gone, I just didn’t really get over it. Neither did my body,” she wrote. “I so thoroughly convinced my body that it was still pregnant after nine months that I had milk coming from my breasts. I was still fat, I was still grieving, and I had just been told it was very possible I would never be able to have children. Fat, childless, with little hope for any future children…that’s when I began to get fat.” Alley went on to adopt two kids with ex-husband Parker Stevenson. William is now 22 and Lillie is 20.